(Closed) Dollar Dance

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 140
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I’ve been following this thread and I value Lisa’s opinions as much as any other person on this board.  Why is she censured by a mod for all to see? 

Lisa, I hope you don’t feel discouraged. 

Post # 141
7294 posts
Busy Beekeeper

ok, PLEASE nobody get about offended about what i am about to say. i just thought it was hilarious!  more hilarious because of all this controversy over these etiquette issues on here.

i was just talking to my Fiance and asked him if he knew what a dollar dance was (because i never did before wedding bee).  actually, before i tell you what he said, let me say that i have nothing against dollar dances!  i think they sound like fun and as a guest i would never in a million year be offended or see it as a money grabber!

ok, so my darling Fiance who knows less about wedding planning and etiquette than anyone you will ever meet, and who cares even less about this kind of stuff, responded to me by saying  “isn’t that like the prostitution but for dancing?”!!!

maybe you have to know my Fiance to find this as hilarious as i did. but i was cracking UP.  he really did not mean it in a negative way either – part of it may have come from the fact that English is not his first language, so my guess is he didn’t have the right word to say what he was trying to say (basically he meant “isn’t that when you have to pay money to get dances?”).  i told him that if i just put that up on wedding bee on this thread in particular with no preface, i would get 300 angry replies!

sorry in advance if no one agrees with my humor, but in case you did, i had to share!

Post # 142
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

To answer the original question, yes, I would think it tacky as a guest. Of course,I’ve never been to a wedding with one, and to me, it reminds me of the bridal showers that I’ve been invited to and been told to bring at least x dollars for the bride (honestly!).


Also, I think that those that actually flag other posters should be held accountable as well. For example, you have a limit to how many flags you can issue in a given week so that you can’t just go around flagging every person that offends you.

Post # 143
9 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’ve been in/attended 3 weddings last summer and all had dollar dances. I’m from a mainly Polish town and they are total tradition around here. Fiance and I aren’t even Polish and people are expecting the dollar dance to commence at our wedding! 

I actually think the dollar dance is adorable, and here’s why:

Guests form a line and drop a dollar into a bag (usually held by Maid/Matron of Honor sitting in a chair) to dance with the bride ( *I like to tie knots in the dollars to make it difficult for the bride and groom to get out ;). Each guest who chooses to dances with the bride, and then forms a circle around her. Once the line is finished, with the FOB being the last dance partner, the circle of guests holding hands tightly encloses the bride so her new husband can’t get in. The groom tries to squeeze between guests, jump over the circle, anything to reach his new bride. Goal is to keep the groom out for a couple minutes until he reaches her 🙂

Totally fun and traditional from where I live.

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