(Closed) Dollar Dance

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@lisa105: Because I’m removing a tradition that they always look foward to and celebrate during all of the weddings in their hometown/family.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If he feels that strongly about it then I say do it. You only get married once and there are so few things that the guys get excited about at all when it comes to the wedding. I would say if it is going to mean that much to him you should let him have it. 🙂

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@R.Elliott:  Hmmm.  I guess I can understand how they would be maybe dissapointed but offended?  To me it would be like cutting out the garter toss or cake cutting or something. 

 

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@Miss Tattoo:  Please don’t attempt to tell me how to post.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

What about doing something else, instead of giving a dollar?  It sounds kind of like your fiance wants a way to get guests involved- so maybe you could do something iike have a hula hoop contest and the winners get to dance with the bride and groom.  It *sounds* like its not typical for either of you, it just seems like a fun idea to your fiance, so if you’re uncomfortable with it, I’m sure you can come up with an alternate idea that is just as fun.

 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My Fiance brought this up because his sister had one at her wedding.  I was like EWWWWW NO TACKY!!!!  But he seemed to really want it.  Over thanksgiving I talked to his sister about it and she said she had the same initial reaction.  However, she said she was really glad she did it because she got to spend time with and talk to people she wouldn’t have necessarily been able to talk with that much.  I’ve been to weddings with it since then and I think it’s fine.  If people don’t want to give you a dollar they don’t have to, but I think it’s nice to get some face time with the bride and groom.  We’re doing it.  So sue me LOL.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

again…..why fundraise at your wedding????  There is simply no nice way of asking for money.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@arclee:  good idea…i guess I like the idea of spending some cute time with the guests.  I just think bringing money into is tacky.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think people are confusing a cultural circle dance with a dance just to get money.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee

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@Kitty Kat: And why consider it a fundraiser?  These dances never started at the behest of the bride or groom traditionally.  Most of the time it started by slightly intoxicated guests just throwing money at the couple.

And I don’t think that any bride or groom would avoid a guest that wasn’t giving them a dollar. 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

what is a cultural dollar dance???????

Post # 28
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@lisa105: Please allow everyone here the right to their opinion without repeatedly degrading them. There is a reason that you have been flagged more times than any other user in the past year. Learn from that.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee

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@R.Elliott:  Just a suggestion.  If it’s something that makes you uncomfortable you shouldn’t be forced to do it.  Would it be possible to come to a compromise and have the DJ announce that you would love the chance to dance with your guests but that no money will be expected?  Basically go through the motions without the awkwardness of asking your guests to pay?

Post # 30
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Miss Manners, Emily Post, The Knot, Weddingbee, and any other wedding site out there do not know your guests. YOU are the one inviting these people to celebrate with you so you should know what is going to offend and what is going to be accepted. I’m not inviting anyone to my wedding that I don’t know on a personal level. If you have to question, “Hmm…will this offend Billy Williams?” then it’s probably best to not invite him.
I have never been to a wedding with a dollar dance that the guest didn’t enjoy. I’ve never heard of guests being so offended about it and if they were, they kept their mouths shut about it. ^_^

Also, if it’s part of your FI’s traiditon/culture then do it. Don’t be ashamed of anything from his culture. You are marrying into the family and if you tell them that a certain aspect of their culture is bad etiqutte and tacky, then be prepared for a life time of hurt feelings.

Post # 31
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@lisa105: I’m not telling you how to post Lisa. We ALL know how these etiquette questions and you go. Someone asks a question, you post how wrong and tacky it is, then you proceed to tell everyone who agrees that it’s okay that they are wrong, then the thread gets closed. ^_^

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