(Closed) Dollar Dance

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@R.Elliott: Thank you…LOL. It was right on the tip of my tongue…or fingers, but it just wouldn’t come out

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@kiki29: Just throwing this out there, if you don’t like it, throw it right back.  If your Fiance likes the idea of the dollar dance, but you aren’t comfortable with it (for whatever reason you have), why not meet in the middle? You could still do the dancing with guests part, but don’t have them pay for it.  That way, your Fiance and his family still get to dance, but you might feel more comfortable with it because they won’t be paying for your time.

But, like I said, just tossing the idea out there. It’s your wedding and you do whatever pops your toaster.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am assuming that the guests who you are afraid might think it is bad ettiquette are those not from your FH’s culture.  If so, it might be nice for the DJ to explain a little something about the tradition of a dollar dance, and tell your guests that participation is optional.

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper

I think if it’s his one request, why not do it? I think there’d have to be something seriously wrong with someone if they were offended by something so innocent. If they don’t want to participate, they won’t.

I actually haven’t seen one in years, but they were always done at family weddings (at least in my big Polish family).

Why must all traditions be changed anyway? Is it really worth arguing about?

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

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@kiki29:  I know what you mean with ppl being too shy- I would be one of those people.  But that is what the alcohol is for, no?

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Until this thread I had no idea what the Dollar Dance was & if I attended a wedding that had one I’d think it was totally cute – 

I’m sure they are uncommon here (Boston). I think regional traditions are so cool, bring it on! 

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@Lindsaygooding: OMG Can I say that I heart you so much right now. I just laughed out loud at your post! (Ok maybe just the last sentence specifically hehe)

Post # 54
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Both my DH and I are Mexican and the dollar dance is the norm.  EVERY single wedding I have attended had one….which is why I thought it was normal and that everybody did it…that is until I joined the hive and read how many bees think it is bad etiquette, tacky etc…  The one thing that most struck a chord with me was those that said that they are super time consuming and take away valuable time from the dancing & other festivities of the evening.  That is so true for me as I would get very antsy seeing the long ol’ lines thinking to myself, when will this be over, I want to dance already!  For this reason, I decided not to have one at our wedding with MUCH protest from DH & some family.  I can’t even tell you how many of our guests were like “What time are you doing the dollar dance?”  Even after the wedding I got “Why didn’t you guys do the dollar dance?, I had brought tons of $1 bills to give you”.  lol….

@OP….  Bottom line, it is YOUR wedding and do whatever you want 😉

Post # 56
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Sugar bee

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@lisa105: Since you brought it up, you are getting flagged like crazy today.

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@Lindsaygooding: LOL This topic always gets things rolling, I value every and all opinions to be honest but to me this one isn’t that big of a deal so I’m just kinda snikering at all the seriousness.

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@mrbee:  For what?!?

Post # 59
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@lisa105: What do you think?? You need to find a less abrasive way of expressing yourself. Your limited self-awareness on this issue is starting to become alarming.

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I love how these posts go.  They’re so entertaining to read.  lol  Its so controversial!!  And for the record, I love you 

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@Miss Tattoo: for being soooooooooooo understanding in all aspects.

See, the reason why I love posts like this is because there are so many people who get offended so easily by others opinions, etc.  And their “opinions” become “preaching” which is just a massive pet-peeve of mine. 

Honey, if you want to do it, then do it.  🙂  I personally wouldn’t just because I know my guests, my Fiance, and none of them would find it nearly as amusing as maybe, your FI’s family.  But, don’t think for one second we don’t have our own “Crazy dancy” that we have to do because of cultural tradition (we’re hispanic and its almost impossibly NOT to put on latin music where the bride as to “scrub the ground”)  lol  Some find it offensive, some find it fun.  Really depends on the cultural (as others have said).

If you’re open to it and your Fiance wants to have it, then do it!!!  I think that most of the guests are your wedding wont find it degrading, etc … I think they’d enjoy it!  (at least based on what you’re saying).

As for others who are getting their “undies in a twist”  (vulgar?  I hope not lol)  please understand, opinion are welcome at the bee (at least I hope so, bc I’m a very opinionated person myself).   But, it just downright becomes ugly when you aren’t open-minded to what others have to say and youre ONLY involved with your OWN opinion.  If thats the case, don’t share it bc it isn’t fair to others who are open to listening to you when you’re not open to listening to them. 

Again, I love you @Miss Tattoo for being the woman you are!!!!!

Post # 61
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Buzzing bee

These topics are just funny.  It really does get us talking again though so that is good.  LISA and TATS never go away!

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