(Closed) Dollar Dance

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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lululias :  No… god I hate these! I think they are WEIRD! I know some people want to use it as a way to receive guests and dance with more people… but there just has to be a better way. Some old traditions are best left in the past.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

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lululias :  My personal opinion, they make me uncomfortable and I hardly ever carry cash, so I just feel guilty. I have only ever seen one (it was in a more rural area) and maybe 5 people participated, and it was awkward. I think they are outdated and never done in the city I live in. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

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lululias :  I know most people on this site will differ in opinion, but I actually look forward to these. Many of the weddings I’ve been to, after you do the dollar dance, you got to take a shot from a server holding them on a platter if you choose. Let’s just say I went through the line a few times (hello… $1 shots!) hahaha. I know they don’t do this at every wedding with a dollar dance though. I think it all depends on where you’re from. We talked about not doing it for a little while, and everyone looked at us like we were crazy lol. Bottom line, your wedding, your choice. If not a lot of people do it, the DJ will know how to end it without it being awkward. I was at my cousins wedding last weekend and they did the $1 dance. It was going on so long that the bride had to signal to the DJ to end it haha

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I always thought it was just a Latino thing to do this LOL. I personally enjoy them and every wedding I’ve been to (except one which didn’t do this) almost everyone participated. but I think Latinos expect this so they carry cash.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Don’t do it. They are really cringe worthy. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

The search function on here sucks, there was literally a thread a few days ago on it lol.

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Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I don’t know if the dollar dance is a cultural thing (probably not, idk), but I’ve seen the dollar dance at so many weddings. It’s never awkward at the weddings I’ve been to, it’s actually a really good time! The bride and groom are really busy all night thanking guests and spending time with each other, the dollar dance gives you a chance to dance and chat with them personally. The last dollar dance I participated in was a little less than a year ago and that was the only chance I got all night to chat with my cousin and congratulate him on his marriage.

P.S. I asked if it was cultural because my family is Hispanic and they’ve been doing the dollar dance for generations! My grandma and mom talk about having done it at their weddings, and I still have cousins doing it at theirs.  

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If it’s a cultural, ethnic or regional tradition, go ahead if you want to have one.

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

My family has fistfights at weddings; that’s our tradition.  However, I will never forget the first time FH, shy and shamefacedly, informed me that there was no way I’d get out of the Bucket Dance.  Same thing, but the groom’s family comes with a shiny new galvanized bucket for the cash.  It is, I’m told, an absolute necessity in his family’s view.  He feels extra bad because I hate dancing, dances, being around people who dance, and sharing proximity with dance floors.  So we’ll do it!  But I insist on the right to help choose the bucket.  Apparently there are usually several people who bring a bucket in case someone forgets, so I may as well embrace it.  It’s only fair, I suppose, since his UCC family is going to be sitting through an hour long ceremony when they’re used to much shorter ones.  And it’s tidier than the fistfights.

Hey!  Bees from the Dayton area!  Is it true that this is a Dayton thing and that you can’t get married in Dayton without it?  Because that is how it was put to me, and that is how I will put it to my Clevelanders.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

See, I think they’re fun! I want to do it, Fiance doesn’t. They pop up here and there at family weddings. It’s a good way to get some honeymoon cash!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

For me, it was a traditional thing (it is absolutely a normal part of the wedding on the side of my family that is from Africa). I had not planned to do it though, but my cousin announced it and I danced, they played music and folks came up and threw money at me. It was not demeaning and no one was uncomfortable. I think it really depends on your attitude and the kind of guests you have there. It was so much fun, and I was stunned at the generosity of my guests.bt_367_(2)

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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lululias :  these began as a cultural tradition. If it’s not your culture then kick it off the list as totally inappropriate.  Doesn’t sound like you want one anyway. And make sure your DJ doesn’t have any other embarrassing surprises up his sleeve!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

It absolutely depends on if it is a cultural tradition to your or your Fiance.  We’re doing it at my wedding because it’s a cultural (Eastern European) tradition.  We call it the Bridal Polka instead of Dollar Dance and I think that makes it sound a little mess money-grabby.  DJ plays a polka, best man hands out shots of whiskey, and Maid/Matron of Honor collects dollars from guests.  Both the bride and groom dance with guests, and when a person’s dance is over they join other guests in circling around the bride and groom.  When the last person in line gets their dance, everyone kicks the groom out of the circle and he has to break through everyone to “rescue” the bride.

I can see how some folks might think this is weird or tacky if it isn’t something done in their culture–I’m sure a lot of my friends and FI’s family will find it weird, but it’s such a blast that I don’t even care.  If it’s something your family or your FI’s family does at weddings, continue the tradition.  If not, then it might be awkward because people might not know what’s going on so you might want to pass.

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Busy bee

I think it depends. I had NEVER seen this before until recently when I went to a wedding in my fiance’s hometown. I found it awkward and gift-grabby, but he found it totally normal as apparently they are common where he is from.

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