Post # 47
@MexiPino: i need to go to more weddings! i’ve lived in CA my whole life and have never been to a wedding that had a dollar dance. :-/ i did have some people ask me if we were doing one at our wedding and i said no. if we had, both our families would’ve looked at us like we have 4 heads!
Post # 48
I personally love the dollar dance and will be doing it at my wedding. All my friends and family have done it at theirs. I love doing it as a guest and I think it will be a lot of fun to do it as a bride. It is a great chance to get to talk with people on a one on one basis, even if it is just for a little bit of time.
I don’t understand the people who call it tacky or refuse to do it. A wedding is supposed to be a celebration with dancing and fun and being with the people who care about you most. So what, if you have a friend or family member that wants to do it. It really isnt the most horrible thing in the world and if you let yourself go and try it, you may just find yourself having a good time!
I have never seen the version where people pin the dollar bills to the bride and groom. When I have seen it done 2 people (normally the Maid/Matron of Honor and BM) have bags and they collect the money in the bags and line people up in two lines (one for the bride and one for the groom, depending on who the person wants to dance with). They also keep the line moving to get everyone through without taking up the entire night. Sometimes everyone who pays a dollar gets a shot before they go to dance, but I haven’t seen that done at a ton of weddings. It probably depends on how you are paying for the alcohol.
Post # 49
We are definitely having one, even though I think it is awkward. My grandma insists on everyone having one and It’s not worth the argument for us. But we’re gonna make it short!
Post # 50
When it is a tradition, I suggest including a brief explanation of it in the program (or the emcee explainit briefly). That usually holds off any criticism from the crowd.
I have been to weddings that have money dances, money trees, and wishing ($) wells. As with all things, it is in how it is handled. Some may argue that setting up a gift table is grabby (but not me).
Post # 51
I don’t know if I would say it was tacky b/c I have’t seen it and I am trying to envision it in my head. I know I’d feel pretty awkward doing it and would no way have wanted to do that for my own wedding. If its tradition and many in your family and social group are familar with it then I’m sure its ok but I am pretty sure no one in my family has heard of it and would prob wonder what in the heck we are doing.
Post # 52
It happens at all the Philipino weddings I’ve ever been too. It’s not “tacky” at all. It’s a cultural tradition. Many cultures have different wedding traditons. If it’s part of you, your fiance’s, or your families culture and you want to have one, have one.
Post # 53
I had never heard of this tradition until I joined the Bee so I would’ve been rather weirded out by it if I saw people pinning money on the bride!
If it’s a tradition and expected in your region, then go ahead and dance up a storm 🙂 If it’s only a tradition for the guests on his side of the family, then you might want to have the MC explain the cultural significance of the dance or something similar so that the people who are unfamiliar with money dances are not weirded out or offended.
Post # 54
I don’t know, I’m in the Midwest like a lot people on here that responded that it’s common here, and I’ve never heard of one or seen it done at any wedding I’ve ever been too.
Post # 55
@chanara: it’s nt tacky its tradition and expected, why nt respect the tradition it cn b fun, why judge? It seems like in the past couple years ppl hav become etiquette nazis and its a little ovr the top to judge anyone’s beliefs traditions or ideas as tacky
Post # 56
@babypearls: Um, not once did I judge. I said it felt tacky to me, and I had never heard of it, and it has never been done at the MANY weddings I’ve been to. How is asking people’s opinions considered judging?
Post # 57
@chanara: I didn’t say YOU were being judge mental. It was a blanket statement nondirected plz dnt take it personal . U asked a question I’m giving u my opinion
Post # 58
@VegasSukie: +1 a lot of ppl use the term tacky, if its something u dnt like its fine but nt necessarily “tacky”
Post # 59
@babypearls: ok then thank you
Post # 60
Etiquette Snob here…
Dollar Dances are of a “European” Background… so they are found in many cultures, having come over from “the old country”
My best advice… if you aren’t of one of these cultures in that you haven’t seen it performed at Family Weddings (Yours or His)… then it is best NOT DONE.
Particularly so, if you are the mind set… of wow cool, this a tradition where we can make money… Uh, NO.
WHICH THEN … YES… WOULD MAKE IT TOTALLY TACKY !!
Hope this helps,
NOTE – I didn’t VOTE… because they are OK only in some cultural circumstances… and that wasn’t an option in the Poll.
Post # 61
I’d not heard of them before the bee. If they are culturally traditional it’s perfectly acceptable, but if it’s coming out of nowhere then I’m afraid I think it’s a bit cringey.