(Closed) Dollar Dance-Will you be doing one at YOUR wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 32
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s definitely a regional/cultural thing.  I grew up in New England and never attended a wedding in that region where there was a dollar dance.  Now I live in Southern California and every wedding I have been to here has had a dollar dance.

I don’t think we are going to do one.  It makes me feel a little uncomfortable and I’m not sure the people coming from my side of the family will get it.  It’s not that I think it’s tacky (I loved the dollar dance at the last wedding I attended), it just doesn’t feel right for our small, casual wedding.  

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s big cultural thing to do at the reception for Persian weddings, too and isnt tacky or weird at all, so please dont knock other ppls cultural traditions ladies! Just a matter of opinion, I guess.

For us, we have thrown this idea around because we really want to incorporate cultural traditions in subtle and since my dad is Persian and this is a really big, fun thing that they do at weddings, we’ve discussed possibly doing it. Ive never been to one that did it but from hearing about and seeing videos, it seems like a lot of fun and something to make our reception unique and memorable.

Plus, its optional and guest arent required to participate if they dont want to so they can just sit back and enjoy the entertainment lol.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee

Its not a common tradition where I’m from.  We won’t be doing one.  I think its tacky (but maybe that’s because they aren’t common around here).

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

First I would like to say that I REALLY wish people would stop using the word TACKY to describe their feelings on something other people are doing at their weddings.

Second, I’m not really sure how I feel about dollar dances. However, I like what the idea behind them is.

Traditionally a dollar dance/money dance has been not only a chance to dance with the bride/groom and get a few minutes of face time with them, but also a “fundraiser” of sorts that is supposed to contribute to the couple’s honeymoon or to their setting up their home. This dates back to when couples were not living together and were not living outside their parents’ home before marriage.

I really think it just depends on what people are comfortable with and what people want at their weddings.

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Agree with Miss Lily. I really don’t normally care too much about people saying tacky or whatever, especially in matters of personal taste. But, as has been pointed out, this is a cultural element. This is one time when it really irritates me for people to call it tacky — just beacuse it is not common in your circle does not make it “tacky.” It just means it is something you are not familiar with. This is not the same as everyone having an opinion on shoes and deeming one style “tacky” compared to another. I realize that a lot of people with middle-class, white, American values will argue that it has to do with asking for money in general, but allow me again to point out that represents middle-class, white, American values. It is not better or worse than another groups’ values, and it should not be the measuring stick against which all etiquette must stand.

My traditional, working-class, Slovak-heritage family would be extremely disappointed if I did not have a dollar dance.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

SHOW ME THE MONEY!!!!!!!!!

 

 

HA HA its tradition in our heritgage to it. SO might as well!

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I 2nd miss lily, too much “tackiness” and snarks towards cultural traditions in this thread.

Here, we have a very large Philippino population and it’s a HUGE popular wedding tradition in their culture. The families actually make a “hat” out of money for the groom and a sash and jewelry out of money for the bride to start it off! 

I go to weddings for my job and I would say across the board about 40-50% “american cultured” wedding do them. 99% of Philippino weddings have them… 

I was actually thinking about this, and I think we are planning on doing it. My brother and his wife (in Houston) did one. They used his fire helmets to collect the money and it made for a lot of fun times and great pictures with a lot of people they otherwise wouldn’t have been able to get… 

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Not having one, but agree with the fact it is 100% cultural and some families enjoy and indeed expect them. I’ve been to African weddings where there are several incarnations in one event (lasts over days) – one comes to mind where the bride dances into the reception hall alone in her change-of-outfit after the ceremony and dinner. Her guests stick money on her while the maids come after and pick it up, for example. It’s supposed to be money to start her household and a fun way to kick off the afterparty!

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@KLP – Hey girlie, long time no see!! I completely forgot about Filipino traditions – my cousin married a lovely Filipino girl years ago and they had the hat and sash and everything! I didn’t realize the “jewelry making” was traditional too. It was the first dollar dance I’d ever seen and it was adorable.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’ve never heard of it but here’s what I found,

 

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I didn’t intend to have one but I mentioned it to my Fiance and he was horrified that we wouldn’t do it.  In his family it’s the time when family gets to spend quality time with the new family member, they’ll probably never have an opportunity to dance and hug me again.

And yeah the amount of times ppl said ‘tacky’ in this thread was ridiculous.  They aren’t popular in my culture but that doesn’t make a tradition tacky.

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This must be a regional thing, because I had never heard of it until I started planning my own wedding.  Never heard of one or seen one.  I’m not sure people would even know what it was if we did it, so no!

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

I seriously cant believe people are referring to a dollar dance as tacky..

 its cultural for alot of people.. thats crazy! 

 I have been a part of plenty weddings with family and everyone always has a dollar dance its part of our mexican culture.. my fiance is Puerto Rican and his family also do it.. how is that tacky? its not like you are stripping for them dollars or something

Post # 45
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Sugar bee

We didn’t do one but I like when weddings have them since you get to spend a little fun time with the bride and/or groom.  There were enough cultural differences bw my hubs family and mine I didn’t feel l like I could explain this one to half the wedding party.  But I did try to dance with a lot of people through the night since we weren’t doing one.

Post # 46
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Sugar bee

But I do think that it’s funny that people view the dollar dance as tacky.  When I see registries with lots of presents ‘suggested’ but the dollar dance is tacky?  That I don’t get at all. 

The only thing I can figure is if the people who think that haven’t actually seen one.  Not everyone dances with the bride and groom, a lot of people just dance around, it’s not just the bride and groom out on the floor usually, so no ones keeping track of how much you give or if you give anything.  It’s just a fun dance to do.

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