Post # 47
It wasn’t our style so we didn’t do it at our wedding. But I’ve been to weddings that have done it — and I’ve participated — and was not offended by it. I think it’s totally up to the bride & groom.
Post # 48
Dollar dances are very common where I live. I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding without a dollar dance. That being said, I’m still on the fence about having one. Like another person said, I’m not a huge fan of touching a lot of people. I know that you don’t really dance with people for very long but I don’t know if I could do it. It is a nice way to say hi and catch up with everybody, though. And dollar dances are definitley NOT tacky. It’s a dollar. And if people don’t want to pay a dollar for a dance, then don’t do it.
Post # 49
I don’t care if anyone else has a dollar dance or not. But I think that they are tacky so we didn’t have one.
Post # 50
I will not be doing it. But it is tradition to some cultures, even some families so it is ok if they want to have one… just not at my wedding.
Post # 51
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
my friend and i paid to group dance with my old roomie at her wedding, it was fun! and it wasn’t in her “culture” to necessarily do it, either. but we will not have one, cause mr. sew and i are really uncomfortable with the whole “dancing” thing. we might even throw out the first dance at this rate!
Post # 52
I for one have learned quite a lot through everyone’s response to the post! I had no idea the dollar dance was a cultural tradition, and I must say that from everyone’s descriptions, it sounds as though the way it is carried out varies greatly by region. In the midwest, it is usually just the Bride and Groom out on the floor. Anyone who wants to dance lines up in front of them and hands the money to the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man. After Maid/Matron of Honor and BMan think the dancer has ‘had enough time’ with Bride and Groom, they cut in on behalf of the next guest, to keep things moving.
I would love to see the hat and sash described by several posters. So interesting!
Post # 53
I don’t think it’s tacky at all! Everyone on my dad’s side of the family has had one at their wedding. My FIs parents had it at their wedding because it was in AZ and it was apparently big there back in the day.
We plan on doing one because it’s a Polish tradition. I don’t think that asking for a dollar is tacky, because the reason for doing it is so that your guests can have a dance and send you off with well wishes!
It’s definitely a fun tradition! As long as the DJ, MC, etc announces the reason WHY you’re doing the dance, it’s not tacky.
Post # 55
Its not tack at all, I have not been to a wedding yet that has not had one!! Its no different then having a bridal shower. Its just another tradition that is done to help the new couple start out their life together. As others have said before you get to have a few moments with family and friends. If you have stripper pole at your reception and someone hands you a dollar then I would consider that inappropriate and possibly tacky.
Post # 56
I really dislike reading that a tradition is tacky. I’m not from the ethic groups that traditionally celebrate with a dollar dance, but for me it is a local regional tradition because of the diverse ethic groups that are located within my area. (It’s a relatively common thing at weddings locally to the point that the original ethic origins are not as important as couples with different ethic heritages have adopted the tradition basically because it’s a regional thing…) I know of some guests who look forward to the dance and choose to give a special gift of money during this special gift… It’s thought of as a little extra gift… not a demand for money… I’ve been to weddings that have dollar dances, and weddings that don’t… (Personally, I have mixed feelings about it, because it’s not an ethic tradition for me or my family, but it is for many of my guests so in a way it is their way to celebrate a wedding.) I certainly do not think it’s a “tacky” tradition, but it is one that is unfamiliar to some regions. I wish that wedding bee commentors would realize that the comment that it is a traditional event is not asking if you like the tradition or for you to judge the tradition, but rather just to share that it is a familiar cultural event for the person making the comment.
Post # 57
I don’t like the idea of the dance, but that’s mostly because it’s not done EVER in my area. Maybe I can add some insight as to why people call it tacky though. If they’re from a culture like mine, you’re told it’s tacky as soon as you hear about it. My mom would say it was everytime it was brought up in relation to any wedding planning. Basically in my area it’s viewed as money grabbing and outdated. I had no idea, until I started planning that people still did it and until recently didn’t know that it was actually a cultural thing. Therefore, I apologize if anyone was offended, but in our cultures it is viewed much differently than in yours.
Post # 58
Its traditional in my culture so we will be doing one. However our DJ is a gift so i thought we could give him the money we get as a tip for him.
Post # 59
I saw this at a greek/italian wedding a few months ago and it definitely rubbed me the wrong way. I didn’t know what was happening and it seemed so offputting.
It could have also been because the wedding was at least 80k and then they were throwing 20s around the dance floor. It just felt…awkward..
Post # 60
I’m not trying to offend anyone because if it is a tradition in certain areas, by all means go for it. However, my personal opinion is that it is really tacky. We’ll have a box for cards at the reception, so if anyone wants to give us money (please!), they can slide it in the card box!