- 4 years ago
I may not explain this as clearly as I hope to because I’m not sure what to call this type of person that I’m describing but I’ll try. Domestically entitled means a person, preferably an adult, who doesn’t think, unasked, to clean up after themselves, wash their own clothes even when the hamper is overflowing, go grocery shopping, drop off dry-cleaning, pick up more shampoo/toothpaste/toilet paper when it’s getting low, cook dinner or do other general adult things around the house (not talking about paying bills, doing taxes, watering the lawn etc but more “traditional” house-keeping duties).
My hubs is domestically entitled. He grew up with a very loving, very devoted Stay-At-Home Mom who did everything for him and his siblings and that’s why I think that he doesn’t clean, grocery shop, cook etc without being asked. Bless his little heart, it’s not laziness or chauvinism but it simply doesn’t enter into his brain to do these things; it seems like he just expects them to magically get done. Comparing him with all the people I know, I notice a pattern; most of the people who are similar to hubs in this regard, definitely not all, but maybe 60%, have/grew up with a SAHP.
Anyway, I’m not trying to say that being a clean/organized/independent adult (in the domestic sense) and having a SAHP are mutually exclusive, by any means. I know that there are tons of people who are domestically entitled and/or slobby who didn’t have a SAHP and many people who had a SAHP who are quite domestically gifted/organized/clean etc but in my experience and of all the people I know, the people who are like my husband in this regard have mostly had SAHPs. My theory is that it’s because SAHPs are always around, always see the mess, etc so they just realize that it’s easier to clean it up than fight with their kids or have to see the mess all day. Maybe they see taking care of the house and their kids perfectly as part of their “job”? On the other side of the equation, working moms/dads don’t have as much time to take care of and clean everything and/or aren’t there to clean up after their kids right away so their kids HAVE to do it themselves. No idea. Have any of you noticed this? Any of your husband’s with this problem who had a SAHP or know any kids this way? Any ideas?