(Closed) Donate to help me pay for my wedding!

posted 10 years ago in Money
  • poll: Help me Pay for my Wedding --- what do you think?
    It's Smart : (24 votes)
    7 %
    It's Tacky : (137 votes)
    41 %
    I can't believe she is doing this : (173 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    31 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I don’t think I could ever ask for donations like that. I’ve never been one to ask for money for something that directly benefits me; I can understand asking people for donations for a mission trip, but when I went to peru for study abroad I forked out that cash myself. Though, it’s a lot easier for people to give a dollar here or there than to pay for a wedding by yourself.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

    I just don’t get why anyone would give her money.  I mean if you want to donate money, how about a real cause like Alzheimer’s, breast cancer, or blind orphans??

    Post # 5
    Member
    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Tanya123 — my thoughts exactly.  Of all the places someone’s money could be donated to… I wouldn’t p

    Post # 6
    Member
    1428 posts
    Bumble bee

    Ummmm NO!!! If I needed money that badly I would go to the bank & get a loan. It’s not like it’s for her child who needs cancer treatment or something difficult.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3526 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’m sorry but all her reasons are DUMB. To insinuate that someone who gives her nasty emails is one who will not donate to her wedding nor to charity is rude and ignorant. I donate to charities of my choice, to people who DESERVE and NEED it.

    There are tons of people out there with debt, with student loans and have no money saved for a wedding. Myself included! But I’m not sticking my hand out asking strangers for money. If she truly wants to be legally married to fiance that bad it costs barely anything to go to civil hall and get it done. Rings and bands are material things that can come later. If wedding blogs have taught us anything it’s you can have a beautiful wedding for next to nothing.

    I wish the link to her site will get deleted and rather a quote of her note so that we give her NO more satisfaction of traffic. Honestly if I were her parents I would be disgraced.

    Edited to strikeout mean comments. But I said it so I feel no need to delete them. If moderaters of this wish to delete this post I have no issues with that. I am a very opinionated individual. 😀

    Post # 8
    Member
    2765 posts
    Sugar bee

    It’s totally fine to disagree with the call to donations… but please refrain from any personal attacks.  Thanks!

    Post # 9
    Member
    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I would never donate, but if somebody else out there gets their kicks from donating to a random person’s wedding, so be it. I don’t quite understand why anyone would find it offensive?

    Post # 10
    Member
    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

    There was something similar a while back… savekaryn.com? A lady was in massive debt, and I believe she eventually paid it all off through internet donations! Interesting concept.

    Post # 11
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    302 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I gave her a couple of bucks.  I think its pretty funny, if not genius.  I seriously wish I had a fundraiser to help pay for our freaking out of control budget, as we do not have benafactors.

    Seriously, I would never do it, but hats off to her.  Get those chivari chairs girl! 🙂 

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Hell. No. And because I respect MrBee, I’m going to leave it at that.

    Post # 13
    Member
    142 posts
    Blushing bee

    I still don’t agree with the idea…

    But how is doing this any different than having a stag and doe party? (Or whatever they’re called in your region.) People there just sell $10 tickets to people to come to party to raise money for the wedding. If you want to pay, pay… if not, don’t.  

    It’s not something I would do, or would financially support someone else doing, but really it’s up to both individuals involved.

    Post # 14
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    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    jenny.j, I’ve never heard of a stag/doe party, but I think you’re thinking of the bachelor/bachelorette party. If that is the case, there are no tickets involved. Friends/family of the groom/bride spend a night out (or in). Just confused about what you’re referring to.

    Post # 15
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    350 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    EAQ219, stag and doe parties like jenny.j described are common in certain areas (I think mostly the midwest? not 100% sure).  Tickets are sold for the purpose of raising money for the couple.  It’s sort of like a couples’ shower, except they’re showered with cash via the tickets instead of gifts.  I’ve never been to one or invited to one myself, but it’s something I’ve heard about before.  The difference between this and the website, I’d argue, is the same as inviting people to a bridal shower vs. opening a website and asking strangers to buy something off an online registry.

    As far as the website goes … no, I would not donate.  I believe strongly in charitable giving, but a "throw me a fancy wedding" fund doesn’t qualify in my mind, not with so many wonderful nonprofit organizations hurting during this economy.  I might want to contribute if the couple had a really good reason for not being able to raise their own wedding funds (e.g. massive medical bills), but that doesn’t seem to be the case here.  And I’ll just stop there.

    Post # 16
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    754 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2008

    I wish I could go back in time and not clicked on her link.  My browser is dirty now.

    *clears browser history*

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