(Closed) Donate to help me pay for my wedding!

posted 11 years ago in Money
  • poll: Help me Pay for my Wedding --- what do you think?

    It's Smart

    It's Tacky

    I can't believe she is doing this

  • Post # 47
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    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    This reminds me of a girl in college who was asking for donations so that her father could come to the Father/Daughter dance at her soriority. At one point I thought it was an April Fool’s Day joke. When I found out it was real, I laughed even harder.

    Post # 48
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    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010 - Amy's Manor

    I can’t say that I would ever support something like this, I find it a little ridiculous that money is what will make this wedding special to her. But I also can’t knock her for trying. The internet (and world) is full of people trying to get something for nothing so it will be interesting to see how this pans out for her. I will say that I found it disturbing that she decided to do this without telling her Fiance – that seems shady to me.

    Post # 49
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    LMAO!!!   HAHAHAHA!!!!

    I would be mortified but she’s not so more power to her.  It looks like the site has only been live for 3 days.  I bet you she’s gets a huge amount of media attention by the end of a month and ends up with a book deal.  GENIUS!  (but still a little tacky)

    Post # 50
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    193 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I don’t think you should have people donate money to throw you a wedding. In some ways a wedding is a luxury, not everyone can afford to do it. Why not get married at city hall and have a little get together with family and close friends.

    Post # 51
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I actually feel sorry for her. Without knowing its impossible to say, but to me this reflects poorly on her relationship with her Fiance as well. If all she wanted was to be with him and be his wife, having a big wedding wouldn’t be that important. I think its easy for anyone to get caught up in the massive wedding industry but, at least to me, this speaks volumes about this woman and the actual event itself being more meaningful than its purpose.

    Post # 52
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    Newbee

    i personally would never have thought of this, but think it’s brilliant!  she is obviously getting attention so i guess she knew what she was doing.  i just can’t believe it’s only been up for a few days and it’s causing such a contrtoversy.  I don’t know, i wouldn’t do it, but if someone else wants to..by all means!

    Post # 53
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    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I wish this thread would just go away.  Everytime I see it, I get so frustrated to think that I’m busting my butt to pay for my small wedding. And this girl has the nerve to ask strangers to pay for her wedding. oh please

    Post # 54
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    Newbee

    Yea, I see your point.  But I do think it’s kind of funny!  Ha!

    Post # 55
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    700 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    That’s ridiculous IMO…I’d be so embarassed for her, and I’d promptly send back my empty declining rsvp so that she knew that I would not be coming to a wedding that she could not afford. 

    Post # 56
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    What I’d like to know is what makes her so much more darn special than my grandparents who married almost 70 years ago?

    It was after the great depression.  Money was VERY TIGHT.  They had SIX DOLLARS to their collective names.  They went to the Justice of the Peace in north MS and got married and she had a simple gold band and a corsage (which was considered expensive at the time).

    What’s so bad about that?  Where is the dishonor in doing that?  There is none! In fact in NYC, their new courthouse wedding has a flower/bouquet ordering area, and very decorative..I’ve seen some LOVELY justice of the peace and courthouse wedding sites!

     

    Post # 57
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    Wannabee

    What you need to do is sit down with your fiance and ask him what is the ultimate goal of the wedding.   Do you want it to be big and spectacular?   Do you just want something with all of your friends and family around?   Once you figure out what your ultimate goals are, then you can start planning and cutting the fat out of the other things involved in the wedding that will drain the money.

    Post # 58
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I…I….girl got balls.

    And because of said big kahones, I think I’d have to give a buck.

    Imean, I completely, totally understand the "won’t even THINK about it camp," but it’s kinda funny.  And if she’s able to throw a $30,000 wedding through the kindness of strangers–think of the story THAT would be.

    I’m not saying I would do it, but it is a novel way to go about it.

    Post # 59
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    Wannabee

    I give her props for thinking of it!  I think it’s hilarious and far from offensive.  I couldn’t do it, but it’s funny just the same.  I’m quite surprised at the backlash.  She isn’t hurting anyone.  I think that she just doesn’t want to settle for a mediocre wedding (based on her idea of mediocre).  I can understand that.   

    Post # 60
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Maybe I’m terribly old school, but I do not like the idea of GIVING away my hard earned monies to somebody who HAS NOT earned theirs..and just wants part of mine!

    Post # 61
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    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2020 - Millenium Biltmore Hotel

    I probably wouldn’t throw any money at her "cause". I can see where she might tick some people off. I don’t really have much of an opinion either way. She’s not much different than any number of people/organizations/groups that ask for money. If I’m interested, I’ll donate. If not, I’ll move on.

    In this case, I’ll move on.

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