(Closed) Donate to help me pay for my wedding!

posted 11 years ago in Money
  • poll: Help me Pay for my Wedding --- what do you think?

    It's Smart

    It's Tacky

    I can't believe she is doing this

  • Post # 62
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    344 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    i have to say that I don’t think it is right to ask for money just because you want the elite wedding.  But as a person that can’t afford a wedding due to medical bills from cancer and such I would hope that since she did have the idea and it seems to be working that maybe she will use it for good and start a charity that donates money so that regular people who can’t get help from all the big charities maybe can be helped.  Like people with medical bills, or people that suddenly got laid off, or single parents.  Maybe this idea will inspire someone to turn something kind of stingy and selfish into something that could help a lot of people.  A wedding day can be simple and special but still it is a day in your life  you want to remember forever:)  Who knows maybe I can find a way to help others like me who just simply want something nice not over the top and just can’t afford it for reasons they can’t help.  Maybe this will be a good thing!

    Post # 63
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    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I am a single mom, do not reside with my guy, I pay ALL my bills, work hard, and parent full time.  I do not expect anybody to help with the cost of my wedding except for the two of us.  I’ve come from the University of Hard Knocks (after getting a divorce five years ago and starting over with little to nothing from the ground up) and got a good education I can tell ya! As far as the cost of our wedding, we will do what our budgets dictate we can and make the most of everything. 

    Post # 64
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I have no problem with what she is doing. If you read through her entire blog, you will find it amusing and by the end say "good for her".  She is not knocking on your door asking for money. There are plenty of people out there that 1.00 to them is like a penny to us. In the end vendors will probably donate their services to her for the publicity she has gotten just from this blog. What is the difference between appearing on those Wedding shows ( where you know they are footing the bill on that 400.00 centerpiece) or asking for a measley dollar on an anonymous online donation.  I say props to her.

    Post # 65
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    344 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    ok so I have to say that I don’t agree necessarily that she needs to have a huge wedding with a cocktail hour and such, but I think she may have something going.  I have read her blog and commented that I hope she would turn this into something good if it works out and if you read her facts page she just added she would like to turn this into a website that will help other brides if it works for her and brides that need the help and not just for lavish huge weddings.

      As a person who can’t afford a wedding and yes I realize a wedding is a luxury but still a dream.  I think it would be awesome to help others like me with medical bills that they couldn’t help and such to have a nice wedding.  Now that doesn’t mean they have to have huge weddings, maybe it is donations, maybe donating dresses or left over decorations and such, maybe it is contacting a vendor to do a donation of a venue.  Just something to make someones dream come true.  I mean if you think about it we all throw away a buck on coffees or something we really don’t need and it could change someones life and give them a memory they may never get to have on their own. 

      Maybe just a different way of looking at things.  I may even start my own website now to start helping other brides to be out:)

    Post # 66
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If I were to donate to a wedding fund, it would be a friend or family member’s, not some random woman on the internet.  There are plenty of worthy, charitable causes out there that would use my money to serve a bigger purpose.  A bigger purpose being something more important than, say, letting Uncle Donald choose between the chicken and the fish.

    Post # 67
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    19 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2009
    Post # 68
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    Newbee

    hey, my fiance and i are most likely paying for everything ourselves, neither one of us have parents, and because im in grad school i only have a part time job. so i have actually thought about making one of those online donation things lol i just dont know how. the way i think if people are willing to give it cant hurt to ask, but maybe thats just me. i dont want anything extravagant, just nice… i think we only have about 150 bucks in out wedding fund so far lol.. ive been paying monthly installments on my dress, so in a few months, ill have my dress and ill have my man, so i dont realistically need much else. whenever we put a few bucks away i just think what kind of wedding can i have with say 150 bucks (city hall, roses from a gas station, polaroid pics and a slice of pizza afterwards). and to me, that sounds pretty cool, so if im happy with that, then however much more we can save (and whatever our friends or whoever we know may be willing to help us out with will be even better. but countrycowgirl i would SO help out with a site like that 🙂

    Post # 69
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    If you have to ask for donations then you shouldnt be having a wedding.

    Post # 70
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    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    @Kurlynut-DITTO!

    Post # 71
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    344 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    honestly I was going to write somethings but I have decided not to cause it really isn’t going to matter because it is like the old saying don’t judge someone till you have walked in there shoes.  I guess I just grew up in communities and churches that always got together and did things for people to help out even make a small wedding dream come true.  I hope that everyones weddings go great no matter what the size or who is paying for them:)  May your marriages be blessed:)

    Post # 72
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My fiance for a VERY brief second considered alot of options to pay for our wedding. but to actually do this. is a little tacky. I’m not judging, i’ve been there. but there are HUNDREDS of ways to get money, ligitament ones to go about getting money

    Post # 73
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    7 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Love is not about money…if i were in her shoes I would have a small civil ceremony and a backyard bbq with close family to celebrate their marriage..that is what’s important.

    Post # 74
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    While I don’t feel that asking for donations is inherently tacky, I almost wonder if this is some sort of research project. How many folks can you scam into supporting a frivolous event you feel entitled to but cannot afford? If she could not afford to bring her friends and family together in even a humble gathering for her wedding due to medical expenses or other true hardship, that would be one completely untacky example… that doesn’t exactly appear to be the case.

     That being said, I’ve done my best to delete the word "tacky" from my vocabulary where weddings are concerned. Everyone thinks something about every wedding is tacky. Why are we so judgemental of these events that are supposed to be about the union of two people, and the coming together of two families?

    Post # 75
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    Newbee

    I kind of agree with you on eliminating the term "tacky."  While you might have your own opinion about a person’s choices when it comes to their weddings, it’s judgemental and mean to point out and gossip about.  While what this bride is doing is kind of funny and interesting to say the least, what is it really to anyone else?

    Post # 76
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Hmmm… online panhandling for a wedding… now theres a thought and thats as far as it should have gone IMO. =)

    My guy can’t even afford the dream engagment ring ATM… let alone the wedding and we’re working on 5 years. We want it ("patience is a virture… patience is a virtue…"), but want it done right. So, we’ll just have to wait and save the old fashion way. Gah.

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