(Closed) Donating money you receive as wedding gift (spinoff)

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Can’t wait to see what people say.  😉

Post # 4
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1426 posts
Bumble bee

I gave them money, they can do what they will with it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Crabbabs: Personally yes. I would rather them put “in lieu of..”. If I want to give money to charity I will, but if I give you money for you to start your new life with, I would like to think that you spent it on yourself or your home. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Crabbabs: Most likely not. Unless I fundamentally disagreed with the charity’s purpose, but even then, once the money leaves my bank account and enters theirs, it is completely up to them what they do with it.

So if I fundamentally disagreed with the charity, depending on how close I was with the couple, I might discuss their choice of charity but not in direct relation to what they do with the money I gave them.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it’s just polite to let guests know where the money/gifts will be going. Before they give it to you it’s their money, and they may not approve of the charity you’re donating to, and might prefer to donate it to another charity of their choice in your name, or something like that. Yes, once they give it to the couple it’s the couple’s money, but I still think it’s just courteous to let guests know.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@galloway111: I agree. That’s what I was trying to say… but didn’t really get it right.

Also, something to think about, that the person giving the money could get a tax deduction if they gave it to the charity directly. But if they give it to you and then you give it to the charity technically you are getting their tax deduction. Some who itemize their deductions might find an issue with that.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would want to know before hand. I don’t really care what they do with it, but if they aren’t getting it for themselves, I would rather save the time of not getting something off the registry and give them money. Which is how I read that other thread- they were registering for gifts and giving the gifts away. Comepletely  up to them-don’t care, but would rather save my energy.

Post # 10
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Honey bee

I dont really have a problem with it. Once they are given the gift, its their choice what to do with it. Plus, who would have a problem with donating to a homeless shelter?

However, I can think of a few charities off the top of my head that are very controversial, and I could understand why people might get upset.

Post # 11
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I give money as a gift.  What the recipient does with their gift is their choice (and I would think it was great if it went to a charity).  But, I am also the person that will give a gift receipt with a gift so if they don’t like it, they can take it back for an exchange or whatever.  No hard feelings here.

Post # 12
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525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

mrskesslertobe  No we are not giving the gifts away just any cash or money we get. 

I’m all over some new plates and a power drill, lol. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If I found out my money was going to a controversial charity that I was against, I would be pissed.  However, it is their money and they can do with it what they please.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@knvprincess143: I am picturing you holding that drill now going vrrrmmmm,vrrmmmm. lol, that is a lot different then how I read the post.

Post # 15
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2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would not mind at all.

I gifted them the cash, it’s theirs. It does not matter to me if they go out to buy a new pot or donate it to charity or buy a pair of Louboutins!

Post # 16
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5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I really don’t care what a couple choses to spend my gift on. If you want to make a charitable donation then be my guest, if you want to buy porn and beer knock yourself out. I don’t think the couple has an obligation to tell you what they used their money for.

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