(Closed) Donating to charity?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I had thought about doing this too, but Fiance and talked about it and we thought that people might think it was a money grab or that they’d be annoyed to be asked for money.

An alternative idea we have thought about was putting a note at the card box/gift table that says “__% of any money we receive will be donated to the ___ charity”.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Personally…. I’m big on charitable donations.  Having said that, I think the concept is nice, but I wouldn’t really ask people who are coming to your wedding to make a donation.  It reminds me of the random boxes that some stores and casual restaurants have by their registers and you always kind of wonder if the money really ever makes it to St. Jude. 

At our wedding, we made a donation in lieu of traditional favors – that way, we didn’t waste money on something stupid that people would either leave on the table or throw away, and we were able to give to a charity that is close to our hearts. 

But that’s just my opinion. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I say don’t do it.  You’re wedding isn’t a fundraiser and I think it’s rude to ask your guests for money (even if it is for a charity).  I also think it’s a bit eye-roll worthy because it comes off as “Hey look at how wonderful and caring we are!  Aren’t we SUCH good people?”  If you want to make a donate, great!  Go ahead and do it in private with some or all of the money you receive as gifts.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it’s a really nice gesture but if you cannot afford for your guests to give money to charity instead of giving the money to you as a gift it may be a bad idea. What you can do is if you have some funds left over after your honeymoon you can give a donation. And please don’t say to your guests instead of giving you favors we are going to take the money we would have spent on you and donate it.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t do it, I don’t think a wedding is an appropriate place for this kind of thing. People have their own charities they support and I for one like to get my company to match so I need a paper trail.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

First off, I think it’s great that you want to give back and help those in need!  And I really don’t mean to sound harsh but, I don’t think a wedding is an appropriate place for this.  It’s kind of like hitting your guests up for money, which is not something a hostess should do.  If I saw a charity box at a wedding then I would assume that you want all gift money to go to charity instead of to you.  And yes, I do think it’s too much to expect people to give you & your Fiance money and also to contribute to a charity.  Personally, my husband & I give to charities on a weekly basis, but we’re also very careful about which we support.  We don’t like to give to charities that I have not researched (for instance we don’t give to random people collecting on the street) because there are many out there that have less savory reputations, some of your guests may feel the same way.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I love the idea of donating to charity but like some PPs said, I don’t think your wedding is the right time to do it. If you really want to donate, my Fiance and I were thinking of donating a set amount to a charity instead of favours. Most charities provide a certificate to show that the donation was actually made.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Not to be harsh, but, if you’re not willing to sacrifice your own money (i.e. monetary gifts) for a charity of your own choosing, I think it’s rude to expect your guests to give up theirs. A wedding reception is supposed to thank your guests for coming to support you & your new husband on your special day, and I think that asking for money in addition to gifts (and any money/time spent on travel) would make guests uncomfortable & is inappropriate.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

what do you guys think about an open bar with a jar/box on the bar saying all b=donations from drinks will be donated to a no kill shelter? the only issue is its very small (35 people) and be reception is in a friends back yard.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Your wedding isn’t a fundraiser. If people want to donate to charity, let them do it privately. Or, donate your gifts to charity if its that important to you.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t care for a sign on the cardbox either. How is the fact that you’re planning on donating 15% important to share? If you love giving back then do it, but I just hate when people feel the need to broadcast how generous they are.

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