(Closed) Donation as a Guest Favor?

posted 5 years ago in Favors
  • poll: Would you appreciate a donation in lieu of guest favors?
    Yes- I would appreciate this as a guest : (93 votes)
    42 %
    No- I would prefer no favor : (73 votes)
    33 %
    No- I would prefer an edible or physical favor : (53 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
    1152 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I love the idea of letting your guests choose the charity!!

    Post # 4
    8681 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Giving a donation to your charity of choice is still not a gift to your guests. In fact it is kind of the opposite. Just don’t do favours and privately donate the money you were going to use for them to a charity of your choice.

    Or even better if giving to charity is so important to the bride and groom why not instead of flowers and centrepieces or a cake or wedding jewellery or professional hair and make up or professional photography or fancy cars that noone sees give that money to charity instead. It seems like brides and grooms always think this is a good idea since they are not physically missing out but suggest that they skip something and it suddenly becomes a stupid idea.


    Post # 5
    1088 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I love the idea, my cousin did that and I enjoyed it. I didn’t need anything else to bring home and I liked the idea of the donation. 

    Post # 6
    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I personally am not a fan of donation instead of favor, I would prefer no favor. I’ve never missed a favor anyhow. To me, charitable donations are very personal and so many charities I’m sickened by what they do with the money. So, IMO, it’s best to skip the favors and give privately, in your own name and without the public fanfare, to a charity. 

    Post # 7
    1671 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @PromiseRooster:  Yes, but ONLY if you have charities that are not controversial. Local animal rescue or a cancer foundation would be good, PETA or anything religious would be bad. (For myself.) 

    Post # 8
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Charity donation favors are not my favorite – however, I do like the idea of giving guest choices. If one were to go the charity route, that’s the way to do it!

    Post # 9
    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Fizzy8:  Charities you think wouldn’t be controversial still can be. Cancer Society is disliked by some, not because they are pro-cancer, but because they spend too much on research and little on helping people who have cancer.   Donate an animal to a family in a developing nation. Sounds great, right? Well the animals often end up be slaughtered, because it costs more then it’s producing. Yet lives its short life starving to death, cause they can’t feed it.


    There really are no “safe” charities.

    There is no donating in a guests honour. The guest doesn’t get anything. The couple gets the tax benefit. 


    It’s also bragging. Look at me, I donated to an organization I like. If it really means something then give a portion of your gifts, and don’t tell anyone.

    Post # 10
    3586 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @PromiseRooster:  no. don’t. stupid idea. hate it.

    If you want to donate to a charity, donate to a charity. Please for the love of god don’t attempt to tie that action to a present you didn’t give to me.

    And for the record, I don’t want a “favor.” They are usually tacky, useless things.

    Well, you asked.


    Post # 11
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Agree 100% with @andielovesj: and Reply # 8

    Not a fan for various reasons given.

    I don’t like the idea of someone making a GIFT ON MY BEHALF for anything… when no one actually consulted me.

    That is presumptuous to say the least… snooty to say the most (or bragging as previously mentioned)

    Want to do something for a particular charity… then do it for yourself, don’t involve me at all.

    I don’t need a Favour at all … just skip it.


    Post # 12
    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I don’t get people who would rather “NO FAVOR!”  Are you offended when the grocery store donates 5 cents if you don’t use a bag?  Why actively discourage donations to a good cause?

    I like the idea of letting your guests choose (so it’s not a single forced donation), and certainly don’t do anything controversial / religious / obnoxious.

    Post # 13
    2073 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m not a fan of this trend. Charitable donations shouldn’t be advertised like that in my opinion. I also don’t see how it is a “favor” to your guests. Personally, I’d rather have no favor than a donation and continue to choose which charities get my money and “in my honor.”

    Post # 14
    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    @lolot:  The grocery store isn’t pretending it’s for me. It’s the condition under which a donation is made by them. It’s not in lieu of anything.

    It’s not about stopping donations, it’s about not doing it in my name. I don’t want you buying a goat for milk in my name. I know what happens to that poor goat. Not all charities are “good”. Even one’s you’d think no one has a problem with.

    Post # 15
    9 posts
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I was at a wedding where the bride and groom had told the guests they would donate to a charity on behalf of the guests however, they never did. I don’t need a favor but I also do not need to be lied to – if they didn’t want to do favors, they should have just skipped it.

    Post # 16
    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    @andielovesj:  Yeah, it really is in your name at the grocery store.  They say, “You didn’t use a bag.  So we’ll donate 5 cents to charity in lieu of you using that bag.”  Sometimes you can choose which charity out of a choice of few.  I’ve never heard of anyone being offended by that….  Money for a good cause, how offensive.

    But I see that being offended by this practice is fairly common, so I assume the OP has figured out the answer to her question.  Each to their own.

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