Post # 1
My Fiance and I wanted to make a donation to the National Multiple Sclerosis Society as our wedding favors. We wanted to say something like “In lieu of….a donation has been made to the MS Society”.
This cause is near to our hearts as I have MS. The problem is that my FI’s family does not know this (we don’t want to deal with the questions plus my Mother-In-Law to be has quite “talkative”. How do we word these favors without listing the organization we want to donate to? Has anyone else had a similar experience and what did you do?
Post # 3
@Cindy-20: can’t you just put that “A donation has been made to a charitable organization”?
Post # 4
@pharmy: This is a possibility but I would really suggest you don’t do this. There are a few threads around here where a majority of people say they really dislike wedding donations.
Post # 5
Just make the donation. You do not have to tell your guests about it at all. Do you normally tell other people when you make charitable donations? Your wedding need not be any different.
You do not owe your guests a favor, so you do not need to explain to your guests what you did with the money.
Post # 7
I would put the MS organization and lie about it… something like… “a friend of mine just got the news that he/she has MS” or “i saw a documentary about MS the other day and we decided to donate”
Or just tell them “i dont need to explain myself or my actions to you”
i hope i dont look like a b*tch, lol
Post # 8
Just say “someone dear to us” has it – they don’t need to know that that person is in fact you.
Post # 9
If you want to make a donation, go nuts, but it is NOT a favour to your guests. You are the one receiving the tax receipt, and isn’t something that should be bragged about.
Also, it may be more hurtful in the long run to not tell them now. Given the progressive nature of the condition, it will one day be apparent to them, and they may remember back to your donation at your wedding, and be hurt that you didn’t tell them, despite becoming one of them. They may look back and think you “trapped” their son (even though I am not in any way suggesting you are) into marrying you.
Post # 10
I’m sorry you have to deal with MS. It’s fine to skip favors entirely.
Post # 11
I think it’s wonderful that you guys want to make a donation instead of gifts. One idea I had for us, is waiting until after the wedding to make a donation. I have a few friends who were not in need of money or gifts, so they asked for donations. That’s a little further than my fiance is willing to go… But, I don’t feel good thinking about the fact that we could end up with a lot of cash after the wedding all for us. I am planning on donating a portion of any cash we recieve to an organization that means a lot to us. That doesn’t even have to be mentioned to anyone since it’s after the fact.
If you think about the fact that you probably will have at least a little money given to you from the wedding, you could invest in a small, inexpensive favor (if that’s something you really want to do) and choose to make a donation later. There are quite a few favors out there that are only a dollar or two even with a huge guest list, that can be fairly inexpensive. It’s just an idea though 😉