(Closed) donation favors but don't want to list name of organization

posted 6 years ago in Favors
Post # 3
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Cindy-20:  can’t you just put  that “A donation has been made to a charitable organization”?

Post # 4
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@pharmy:  This is a possibility but I would really suggest you don’t do this. There are a few threads around here where a majority of people say they really dislike wedding donations. 

Post # 5
46600 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just make the donation. You do not have to tell your guests about it at all. Do you normally tell other people when you make charitable donations? Your wedding need not be any different.

You do not owe your guests a favor, so you do not need to explain to your guests what you did with the money.

Post # 7
1547 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would put the MS organization and lie about it… something like… “a friend of mine just got the news that he/she has MS” or “i saw a documentary about MS the other day and we decided to donate”

Or just tell them “i dont need to explain myself or my actions to you”

i hope i dont look like a b*tch, lol

Post # 8
412 posts
Helper bee

Just say “someone dear to us” has it – they don’t need to know that that person is in fact you.

Post # 9
3267 posts
Sugar bee

If you want to make a donation, go nuts, but it is NOT a favour to your guests.  You are the one receiving the tax receipt, and isn’t something that should be bragged about.

Also, it may be more hurtful in the long run to not tell them now.  Given the progressive nature of the condition, it will one day be apparent to them, and they may remember back to your donation at your wedding, and be hurt that you didn’t tell them, despite becoming one of them.  They may look back and think you “trapped” their son (even though I am not in any way suggesting you are) into marrying you.

Post # 10
1185 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@andielovesj:  +1

I’m sorry you have to deal with MS.  It’s fine to skip favors entirely.

Post # 11
815 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it’s wonderful that you guys want to make a donation instead of gifts.  One idea I had for us, is waiting until after the wedding to make a donation.  I have a few friends who were not in need of money or gifts, so they asked for donations.   That’s a little further than my fiance is willing to go… But, I don’t feel good thinking about the fact that we could end up with a lot of cash after the wedding all for us.  I am planning on donating a portion of any cash we recieve to an organization that means a lot to us.  That doesn’t even have to be mentioned to anyone since it’s after the fact.

If you think about the fact that you probably will have at least a little money given to you from the wedding, you could invest in a small, inexpensive favor (if that’s something you really want to do) and choose to make a donation later. There are quite a few favors out there that are only a dollar or two even with a huge guest list, that can be fairly inexpensive.  It’s just an idea though 😉

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