Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married in 4 weeks and instead of doing favors that a) no one remembers and b) are a waste of money, IMO, we were thinking of making donations to the rescues that our beagle and our cat are from. Our beagle had 3 foster homes from the society and our cat was at the shelter for 8 months. They mean the world to us, our little old-fart AARP animals.
We were thinking of putting a note at each spot explaining the donation and the reason behind it.
Is this dumb? Anyone been to a wedding where this was done or done this at their own wedding?
Post # 3
I personally don’t like this idea but I guess it’s an nice gesture. I also have a beagle 🙂
Post # 4
just a warning, there is a lot of controversy and strong opinions over donations as favors.
Favors aren’t necessary. I would make a donation with the money you would have used towards favors, but no need to announce or tie it to the wedding…
Post # 5
@pierce8: We are doing a donation instead of favors. I don’t yet know how it will be presented at the wedding but I know it will be low profile.
Post # 6
@pierce8: I agree that favours are in general a waste of money especially if they are not edible. However just make the donation to the rescue instead of paying for favours. But there is no need to tell anyone about it. To me it is not a favour to your guests and you are kind of telling them that you were going to get them something but instead decided to do something that made you feel good instead.
Post # 7
My cousin did that, with a card at each place setting explaining. Whole family loved it!! No complaints. I thought it was nice.
Post # 8
Make the donation if you feel it is a better use of your money, but you do not have to tell your guests about it.
It can come across as bragging. After all, when else do we ever make a donation to a charity then go around telling everyone ” We gave a donation to the Heart and Stroke Foundation!”.
Many couples state that it was “given in your name”. No it wasn’t. You are the ones who are going to get the tax receipt.
Favors are not necessary. If you decide not to have one, you do not need an explanation for your guests.
Post # 9
@pierce8: What skittkes said. I have seen this get heated before and I actually understand both opinions. But sonetimes a couple that is passiobate about a certain cause might see the opportunity opportunity to raise awareness by making note of ffe donation at the wedding.
No, your idea is not stupid. Doing good is never stupid. Some bees find it in bad taste let your guests know about the donation you made. I do not. I have seen some wording that put me off a bit, but it’s not about the wording, it’s about the good! When we do ours I will just sneak a little blurb in somewhere that doesn’t impart any sanctimony or imply that we did favor for our guests.
I was really surprised when I saw how unfavorable it was with some bees. But it’s just one of those things that seem like it would be very agreeable but is actually very subjective & even pretty touchy!
Post # 10
I’m not a fan of donation favors.
If you want to donate money, do it. Don’t make it sound pretty by saying you donated “in my name.” You didn’t. So just donate the money, leave it out of the reception and don’t have favors.
Post # 11
I can see both sides of the opinions on this issue.
Personally, I would have no favors (no one will miss them), and you can then donate the money to the shelter on your own.
Post # 12
I agree with the PPs. It’s considered poor form to imply that you were thinking of getting your guest something, but decided against it! As mentioned, favors are not necessary in the first place. And charitable donations are great, but have nothing to do with your guests.
Post # 13
Wow…didn’t think it would ever be considered bad taste to donate money to a good cause.
Post # 14
donating the money is in good taste. seeing the need to announce it to all your guests can be seen in bad taste.
Post # 15
@pierce8: try googling this topic, it is asked about every month.
I say no, don’t do it, it’s stupid. Just do not have favors. I think that they are tacky anyway. It makes me feel like I am a 4 year old at a birthday party. Please treat me like an adult and do not foist cheap crap from China on me.
Post # 16
Donating is not what is in “bad taste.” It’s your patting yourself on the back for essentially doing what you want to do.