(Closed) Donation to the Church, when to give?

posted 9 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

The priest I talked to told me that it would be nice to get the donation before. So I just donated the same time I booked the date at the church. However, from the way he said it, it sounds like it’s not uncommon to provide the donation after the wedding either.

Post # 4
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We paid for the church rental before the ceremony and provided a donation to the priest after the ceremony.  I would ask your church secretary what your parish prefers/what is normal. 

Ours said that, since the priest isn’t paid extra for doing the ceremony (he’s basically doing it as a “service” to the church), he is often given a donation in appreciation of his services after the wedding.  She said the best man usually hands over the donation after the ceremony; we didn’t have a bridal party, though, so my dad did it instead.

Post # 5
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Our “donation” is due one month before the wedding and a portion of it was due on the day we booked our ceremony date and time. 

Because it sounds like yours really is a donation, I would do it before just to make sure that it doesn’t forgotten when everything starts ramping up.  Maybe a month or two before the wedding.

Post # 6
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Typically, there are a couple of donations. Some of the most common are as follows:

1) Donation to the Priest/Church for the use of the facilities

2) Donation to the wedding coordinator who works for the Church who helps you coordinate where to stand, the reading selections, order of procession, coordination of rehearsal, etc…[basically, to keep things flowing smoothly]

3) Donation to the cantors & musicians

Good amounts are as follows:

Church – $200 to $300

Wedding Coordinator – $100 – $150

Cantors/Musicians – $50 – $100 per person


These are given the fact that this is your parish. If this is neither yours or your Fiance parish, it might be more.



Post # 7
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The above post is interesting/informative. I didn’t realize one donation entailed so many things.

Post # 9
12 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

We booked a church that is not our parish. Upon booking the church, we provided donations for the church, the organist and the janitorial staff.  I understand it is customary to give the priest a donation on the day of the wedding but we’re not sure how much…what is customary?

Post # 10
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We gave our priest $200.  I would ask the parish secretary what is common for that church.  I think the amount probably varies depending on location, church size, etc…  Good luck!

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