(Closed) Donations as Favors… good or bad

posted 7 years ago in Favors
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t care either way. I wouldn’t miss the favors, but what if not all your guest agree with the cause/donation you are giving?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Most people dont keep/use many favors, except the edible ones. Personally, I have been to weddings where donation suchs as to a pediatric cancer research fund have been the “favor” and I think its a very nice gesture, and not cheap at all. I think if you pick something like wounded veterans to support, many people would be hard pressed to not think this was a good & honorable cause! Besides that, as you mention, it is something very special to you all, and the point of a “favor” is to share that specialness.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013
Post # 5
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Helper bee

I think it’s a lovely idea and is obviously important given your FI’s military status. Considering how often we hear about favors being left behind or people not wanting another tchotchke, a donation is an awesome alternative.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

I don’t think donation favors are cheap at all! The only other favors I really like are edible ones (the rest usually end up forgotten in the bottom of a drawer), and I think it’s nice when couples donate to something near and dear to their hearts. It allows them to show a little of their passion and personality, and I think it’s great whenever a couple starts off their marriage with generosity. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

I don’t think donation favors are cheap at all! The only other favors I really like are edible ones (the rest usually end up forgotten in the bottom of a drawer), and I think it’s nice when couples donate to something near and dear to their hearts. It allows them to show a little of their passion and personality, and I think it’s great whenever a couple starts off their marriage with generosity. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re making a donation to the animal shelter that we got our 3 dogs from instead of doing favors.  It would rather donate money to a good cause than spend the money on something that people won’t even remember!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it’s a wonderful idea. I’m not in the military, but I love the Wounded Warrior project. I’m an activist consumer and buy things that support charitable causes like that. We are also thinking about doing a charitable favor in honor of our guests to a foundation or organization that means a lot to the two of us and giving our guests cards explaining our favor with a bow attached (pink for breast cancer, red for HIV/AIDS, Green for Girl Scouts, etc, etc.)

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve read before that it’s rude and is taking away from the guests, but I disagree with that idea- when I go to weddings, I only remember favors if they’re edible, and I certainly wouldn’t notice if I didn’t get one. I think donating to a charity is a good place to spend your money since I think most people would be perfectly happy with it.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hope this isn’t too brutal in the honest department, but… “Good or bad” — my answer is “bad.”

Sorry but I really can’t stand the whole donation favor concept. For one thing, favors are not a requirement — you don’t owe them to anyone, so giving a donation in lieu of something that isn’t required or technically expected, etiquette-wise, is a little silly IMO.

Mostly it bugs me because I don’t want someone to donate money in my name to something I may not even personally support. Not that this applies to your charity — but there are some out there that I definitely don’t support. It also seems kind of show-off-y to me… I just think giving to a charitable organization isn’t something that needs to be broadcast to everyone.

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I love the donation idea. We are doing the same although we haven’t figured out which charity yet.

As PP said most people don’t really care for the favor unless its edible and don’t usually want something with your wedding monogram on it.

Definitely do the donation – not cheap and helps out a great cause. You can’t go wrong!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it’s a good thing.  I know that favors are not a requirement, but if you CHOOSE to make a donation in lieu of favors (since most people don’t use the favors anyway), then how can that be a bad thing?  You can skip doing favors altogether, yes, and that would be fine..some people may not even notice.  But if you choose to skip AND donate to a cause, that is great.

We made donations to 2 charities – 1 being Susan G. Komen for breast cancer because my aunt who raised me has cancer and the other to St. Jude’s because my sister-in-law does research there.  Who wouldn’t support those causes?!

Just make sure to donate to a cause you know people wouldn’t be offended by, such as poilitical, etc.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh, and I just wanted to add that our guests came up to us and specifically thanked us for doing the donations in lieu of favors.  They thought it was amazing and some even offered to give us money for it! Certainly didn’t accept but it was nice of them.  And my aunt was especially thankful.  My husband is in medical school so we found it even more fitting doing these donations.  People say that guests may find it rude but I can’t imagine even knowing anyone who would find this rude!

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