Post # 1
Has anyone used the money they would have spent on favors and made a charitable donation instead? I have heard of this before and my fiance and I would like to do this.
I am wondering the best way to explain to the guests that this is what we have done without drawing too much attention to it. Has anyone made cards for the tables to tell about the charity or does anyone have other ideas on how to convey this? If so any pictures of what you used??
Post # 3
Favors are never required and because of that, and due to the fact that so many get left behind and the money spent on them is wasted, guests prefer that money going to the food/beverage/entertainment/photography budget that they will appreciate at the wedding. People do not miss favors if they are not there.
As far as donations are concerned, they are not favors. A favor is something tangible you can take home as a memento of the day and you cannot do that with a donation of any kind. Also, a donation should never be announced to guests because it comes across as pompous and “look what we did!” even if that is not your intention at all. If you would be donating to that particular charity anyway, then do so and keep it private. But your guests do not want to nor need to know, and it can be very uncomfortable for many guests to make such an announcement because of this. A donation should not be done just for a wedding or other special occasion, particularly if you have no intentions of ever donating to them again.
If you do decide to give donations, give them in your name only, not your guests’ names. The reason being is that charities go after people who have donated in the past, even if all they have is a name on file that someone else has submitted from a donation given in their honor. Most do not take no for an answer and guests may not appreciate that, especially if it is a charity they have personal issues with.
Post # 4
I really like the idea of giving a donation instead of a favor. I was going to do this, but some people feel really strongly against it, and because of the push-back I was getting, we went with traditional favors.
I disagree with Ember, and I think that a donation in someone’s name can definitely count as a favor, as long as you put the guests names on the donation, and not yours. I don’t think it is pompous at all. In my opinion any donation is a good donation, even if you never intend on donating to them again. I’m sure every charity would feel the same way. I’ve heard of people just putting a framed sign on the escort card table. That way it doesn’t seem like overkill putting it everywhere.
Post # 5
I suppose I’m pompeous and inappropriate but this is what we did as a favor and in honor of my deceased father. Our guests appreciated it and commented what a nice idea it was.
Post # 6
Okay i guess what I am trying to say is that we wanted to make a card that says in lieu of favors we donated to the charity that our minister (who is performing the ceremony) is involved in and give info on how other people can help this cause if they would like. And yes i do agree with you I want to avoid anything that says “look what we did” “we are such great people for donating”! I don’t want to advertise like that. I have seen people do this and I think if it is done in the right way it is not offensive and can help raise awareness for this charity. I am basically looking for ideas on how to word it or how to express it without coming off as bragging.
Post # 7
I’ve been to 2 weddings where they’ve done this. Personally, I love it. I don’t usually like favors, and I’m all for charity, so its perfect. At one wedding, they made a small sign, similar to a table number card and explained that a donation had been made and it went into depth about the cause and the charity’s work. The other wedding gave the same explanation but it was tucked into everyone’s napkins.
Post # 8
Thanks guys! I really like the idea of having it on the escort table.. defiantly want to avoid overkill! @Shaema that’s perfect wording! Thank you
Post # 9
I like the idea. The charity should be something that means something to you and your family. We will be donating to the American Cancer Society because my dad and several other family members have died or suffered from it. We are doing it in addition to our favors (just because we came up with a cute, inexpensive idea) so we will probably just make up a card near the guest book. And we will put it in our name so our guests do not get called by the charity all the time.
Post # 10
I used to work at a hotel and have seen a couple donate money to a charity of their choice in lieu of a favor. They had a little card on each setting explaining their reasons. I think this idea is fantastic!
Post # 11
I feel like wedding favors are kind of a trend that is finally dying. I haven’t seen one at a wedding in years, and although I’ve seen the “we have donated to ___ charity instead of a favor” twice, I always kind of think to myself, “That’s nice… good for you…but I could care less if you donated to a charity instead of giving me a bag of personalized M&Ms”.
I do, however, like future mrs kirsch’s idea of having a small card next to the guest book; it makes it more of a way to honor/remember your guests, similarly to people putting a “Remembrances” section in a program, rather than a “Look at us! We are so nice and charitable!”
Post # 12
We are also doing donations, I love the idea.
We are picking three charities that we feel strongly about and at each place setting there will be a little bag with some pretty stones (each one representing a dollar) and an explanation card. At a table off to the side there will be a table with 3 jars where the guests can select which charity they want their dollars to go to. In front of each jar there will be a little card with a description of each charity. We’ll count up the stones and give the total to each one.
Post # 13
We did a donation to the Lukemia and Lymphoma Society. At each place setting there was a menu card and at the bottom of the menu card there was a sentence or two thanking guests for coming and mentioning the donation.
Each menu/favor card was just half of an 8.5×11 sheet of paper (vertical) and it sat inside a folded napkin.
Post # 14
I am doing the favor donation with the BC Cancer society. They actually give you little tags to put at your table.
“In leui of a favor blah and blah have donated to the BC Cancer Agency in your name”
Its beautiful and people love it.
Post # 15
I think that donating to a charity is a great idea. I work for a large international non-profit organization and see the value of making a donation. I don’t think it’s pompous at all. If you did make a donation in lieu of favours and not tell the guests, wouldn’t some of them wonder where the favours are. I think it’s a great idea to make a donation in lieu of sometimes cheesy favours (not all are cheesy, just some!) and I definitely think you should let people know where the money is going. If someone is going to complain about not getting a little favour, maybe they should re-evaluate their lifes and realize how lucky we are to live where we do, or to have our health etc.