Post # 1
I was in a relationship for 2 in a half years with a guy I loved, my first love at that. I took him back multiple times for lying and cheating. Yes I know I was stupid for that but I thought that maybe he would change. We both planned and decided to have a baby and my child was stillbirth. Around that time I found out I was being cheated on once again while I was pregnant. I met with this girl that I already knew and she was telling me the were talking way before my pregnancy and that when I told him the news about our baby, he called her. After the death of my baby he said he couldn’t see being with anyone else because of everything we’ve been through together, and I believed him even though I didn’t trust him. We were still doing things together and caught him in a lie and told the girl I met with about us and he found out and told me that he hated me and that I ruined his life and to fuck me and my baby, and called me some other names you all know of. After speaking with this girl she stated to me that he asked her that he wanted her to habe his baby. This guy is not good for me and I know I deserve WAY better but knowing that he wants someone else to have his baby and after me telling her about his lying, cheating, abusive ways, she still went with him. Now I’m seating here going day by day waiting to here the news especially knowing valentines just passed. It hurts just thinking about it even though I dont want him. I know other people in the world may have been through this or even worse. I just know I will hurt knowing that she knew we was together and him wanting to have a child by her and if she got pregnant and has this baby, I don’t think that would be fair. I try my best to be a good women of GOD and what I’ve read about his word is that he is just and I dont feel that justice will be served if he allows him to get her pregnant. How could that be fair? I know God makes no mistakes but I just don’t undersrand. It was hard enough losing my 29 week old child then I lose a relationship I want to keep going because I loved this guy so much. But he just didn’t love me back and was never shit as he put it. I really need some words to lift me up and I try to keep praying and reading my word but my faith is starting to fade. I just ask for someone to comment with anything to help me with this PLEASE????
Post # 2
Misunderstood123: my apologizes my child was 39 weeks
Post # 3
Not sure why your title says you did wrong by your man… It sounds like you were wronged by him over and over. You sound like you have very little self esteem to continue to want to be with someone who clearly has no respect for you what-so-ever. I would encourage you to seek counseling. Seeing as you are religious, many churches provide counseling for free.
As a side note, your “man” sounds faaaar from a respectable man of God, and God cannot control where that man decides to put his penis.
Post # 4
wow…. i’m so sorry for your loss OP.. *virtual hug*
i was asking the same questions as you a few months back, how could someone who is doing such awful things to other people be allowed by God to sail into the sunset so easily while we are stuck still loving them, despite logic telling us that they don’t deserve it.
this article i found really helped me, i hope it will help you too. i’m not sure what the rules are re:sharing links on this board, but the article is called “the other woman-now he’s happy with her” on this online magazine Safe Relationship Magazine. please give it a read.
i can’t imagine what you’re going through now, it will hurt for a while, but things will slowly get better. you really do deserve so much more OP. this man is crap, but you know that already. give yourself time and space to heal, and cut him off completely. again, so much internet hugs your way.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2016 - His Way Church & Chesapeake Room @ Downs Park
So sorry to hear about you losing your baby. I can’t imagine how that must’ve felt *HUGS*
But as far as everything else goes, I noticed that you keep saying you feel like it wouldn’t be “fair” if he went with her and got her pregnant. But to be honest, I think that’s the best thing that could happen for you at this point.
You know he’s a liar and a cheater, so why would you want to be with someone like that? And as far as the other girl goes, she deserves whatever she gets for being with him. Like you said, even after you told her about all his lies, cheating and abuse she STILL went with him. So that’s her perogative.
Try to move on. The loss of your child was horrible, but as far as the guygoes, try to see that you are in a better situation now that you aren’t with him. You WILL find someone who will treat you right. And your life will be happier without him in the longrun.
Goodluck with everything. Sorry you’re going through this.