(Closed) Don’t belong to a Church. Who to marry us?!?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

MY Fiance and I found an officiant on a site called weddingwire. She has very good reviews and is able to do a completely customizable wedding. We asked for a spiritual wedding, but she does everything from religious to completely non religious. I suggest looking into local officients in your area. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance and I aren’t religious either but his dads preacher will be marrying us. My brother got married back in March and they found a officiant online for a cheap price. Good Luck!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You find a wedding officiant…there are plenty out there that are not affiliated with a religion and will marry you anywhere. WeddingWire, TheKnot, Google…there are lots of places to search for one.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

you could get a friend or family member to officiate!

two ways to do this:

1. have them go online and become ordained. google “ordained online” and you’ll find  a few websites explaining how to do this. not sure, but maybe the laws will vary by state or country, so be sure to check in to make sure you are doing everything correctly for the region where you will get married. 

2. OR, go to a courthouse and just get legally married before the ceremony. that way,  wouldn’t have to be ordained.  this is how we did it,  I know another couple who did it this way too. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

our venue provided us with a list of officiants they work with. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It seems like you have three options:

1. Pick an unaffiliated officiant (easy to find online).

2. Choose and church and then see if you can get married there with one of their officiants. (Different churches have different rules about this.)

3. Have a non-religious officiant, like a friend or a judge.

Do a little bit of research and then pick the one that feels best for you and your fiance.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I live in MD and got married in OR, so I had to get married out there. My parents don’t attend church very regularly and I wasn’t a big fan of my grandfather’s minister. I wanted a Christian minister, but someone who would be flexible, since my FH’s family is not religious. I asked my mom for recommendations based on weddings she’d attended, churches she’d visited, etc. She sent me 4 or 5 names and I looked at each pastor’s church website. I sent an email to the one that appealed to me most, explained the situation, my remote connection to the church (my mom is good friends with so-and-so, who are members of your church) and asking whether he’d consider marrying non-members. Luckily he said yes. We set up a phone conversation and I liked him immediately. He was great to work with and everyone at the wedding thought he did a fantastic job. 

My suggestion would be to ask around or to think of weddings you’ve attended and ministers you liked…

ETA: You might want to meet with your FI’s grandmother’s preacher and see what you think… or just attend a service there…

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We found a reverend through weddingwire.  Do a google search for officiants in your area, you will find there are a lot of options.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We also found our officant on WeddingWire. He was fantastic and cheap!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance and I do not attend church on a regular basis but are both Christians. We are actually getting married at a Lutheran Church as non-members. His sister is a member and we have attended the church for other weddings and baptisms. We love the pastor!!!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We’re having a judge. Our county provides a list of judges who perform weddings both in and out of chambers. Out of chambers means they will come to your venue. The fee is $100 and our judge has done hundreds of weddings and had several options for ceremonies to choose from/mix & match.

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