(Closed) Don’t borrow trouble: a Public Service Announement

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee

Thank you.

And I would like to add.  There are two sides to every story, and then there is the truth. Perceptions are biased and people REACT, so if you think someone has slighted you, or doesnt like you, or is being rude, they may infact be reacting to something you did or said that they perceived to be rude or hurtful, even if you didnt mean it that way. Or maybe they have a different perception of the situation than you do… which goes back to the OP- dont assume people are doing something purposely.  

“Pat wanted to steal it, but was afraid that the man with the mask would try to keep him away from home”

We all naturally have a first assumption… but we dont have to keep it. That above sentence could be about the boogy man, a thief, a super hero or a baseball base-runner. Take time to check your initial assumptions. They may be wrong or misleading and others could be reacting to them.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Cheers!

Definately good pieces of advice to always remember 🙂

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Haha @lefeymw when I read your quote I thought hmmm that is a little ambiguous, then I went back to re-read it to try to get more clarity, then concluded that the statement could be read multiple ways and I would need more data….then I read the rest of your post! I feel a little good I didn’t jump to a conclusion that it was about baseball or the boogeyman =)

 

and mightywombat, great advice that I will take to heart and I think I definitely need to practice!!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

A great reminder, mightywombat. “Words of affirmation” are my love language and I always find things people say going straight to my heart – good or bad.

Another way I’ve heard it expressed is “Don’t tell stories about people.” Sometimes I know I can take things people say and weave a whole (fictitious) tale around it, and then it takes on the status of truth in my head, when it’s really just a matter of interpretation.

Thanks for the words of wisdom 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@mightywombat: All so true. This can be applied in so many situations in life. I think sometimes its hard to remember not to take something personally…but it really can make a difference!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Fabulous post!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have a device along the same lines that has made my life so much easier:

“No one can read your mind”

If you want something, if you expect or need someone to do something, if you are hurt, happy, excited, angry – you need to actually say so and make it clear to your surroundings. And it’s not enough to hint, you may think you’re being obvious but that may not be so to other people, you need to spell it out.

So, reminding myself that very few people in this world are mind readers makes it a lot easier to accept when someone turns up dressed in jeans or forgets to return a call or does the opposite of what I wanted. You really can’t expect people to behave the way you want them to!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@mightywombat – Thanks for the life lesson!  Smile

@lefeymw – Love that quote!  May I borrow it to work on perception (and using context) with my students?

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