Post # 1
I just needed to vent. In the past two weeks, I have been called a bridezilla several times or things I think were quite reasonable assertions of my own opinion about my wedding, because I questioned why a vendor had not taken care of something she assured me would be done by now, because I expressed frustration that a vendor is now tacking on an extra $200 charge for a service I inquired about months ago. (The fee is not unreasonable, but it should not have been a surprise.) In each of these cases, I have been exceedingly polite. I think the b-word is being used to bully me.
Post # 3
I’m sorry that people are saying that you are a bridezilla. It seems like that is overused whenever a bride wants things a certain way or acts more than just like a perfect little bride.
Post # 4
Whoa, wait, a VENDOR is calling you a bridezilla?
Post # 5
Yep, MissHelen. She called me “difficult,” too. I had no idea that questioning why a charge was being applied to my account that I had not been notified of before was so utterly beyond the pale.
Post # 6
I think you’re exactly right about the bullying part. There’s a difference between being professional, firm, but reasonable, and being an unreasonable jerk. However people know that most women are already concerned about being seen as nice and polite, and accusing them of not doing that is the easiest way to get them to back down. Stand your ground!
p.s. I just saw about the vendor- get rid of that person fast if at all possible!
Post # 7
FIND A NEW VENDOR. quick!
Post # 8
I actually cannot believe I have NOT been called a bridezilla with all the details I want just right.
Oh well. We haven’t met w/the florist yet. lol! I am a detail freak, and want things just so. Not making things terribly complicated for my vendors, but expect things to run smoothly and for them to be professional in their delivery.
DO stand your ground w/that vendor! She slapped an extra 200 bucks and asked you to take it without asking about it?
She’d be calling me a heckuva lot words other than bridezilla after dealing with me. DEF get that worked out. I hope she refunds that to you and kudos for you standing up for the budget!
Post # 9
Ugh, from a vendor? I agree that’s probably bullying… hold your ground and be polite, reasonable, but FIRM. If that vendor continues to be a pain and you’re able to replace them, you might want to consider it, because they’ll likely only become more of a pain as the wedding gets closer if they won’t respond reasonably now.
Post # 10
I can’t get over that a vendor called you bridezilla. Wow!
If you can’t replace them, I do hope that you be sure to note that in any reviews you write about them.
I agree with greenleafmountain as well regarding women wanting to be seen in a kind and polite light and I do think that you are being bullied.
Post # 11
I dont mind being called a bridezilla but the only ones who has said it is family members if a vendor called me that….they would feel my wrath! haha
Post # 12
I would find a new vendor, if possible. If not, I agree with MissHelen, write it in the review. We had a difficult time with the cake tasting establishment last weekend. It was not handled well. Fiance called me a bridezilla jokingly, but it still was a little hurtful…. I would be extremely upset if a vendor called me a bridezilla! She would definitely get a dose of what a bridezilla is if she pulled out that card!
Post # 13
Seriously?! Can you fire her? You have every right to expect good customer service in all situations, and you’d think people would be more understanding that you find having everything go well for your wedding is that much more important. Anyone who isn’t understanding is getting a seriously bad review on yelp; anyone who is will get 5 stars.
Post # 14
I can’t “fire” the outfit that this vendor represents, but I could have a new manager assigned to my case, which I will probably ask for.
Post # 15
I would definitely do that. And explain to her superior that your reasoning is:
- She is a poor communicator
- She is defensive
- She insulted you when you inquired about the additional charge
Making sure that the superior know WHY you’re firing someone may help them receive the feedback they need to change. She’s not likely to take the hint from you, but when she is reassigned, I’m sure her boss will tell her exactly why, and may even consider her performance as damaging to their business practices!
Post # 16
Hold your ground girl. She is trying to bully you because many brides hate being seen as bridezillas. She wants to get the same amount of money for less work obviously. Stick to your guns. She has no right. Don’t be upset, it happens to us all. I’d be really suprised if by the time I get married my vendors aren’t calling me bridezilla. It’s not a bad thing, because some vendors want to get lazy and they don’t deserve the same $$ for an inferior product or service.