(Closed) Don’t do it!

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
Member
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You are not too young.  Everyone likes to opine on stuff that’s none of their business.  There will always be people telling you everything under the sun.  Gotta filter out the bad advice and only listen to people who are supportive.

Post # 4
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1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

So so rude. The thought that gets me through this is that YOU know that YOU have something special. Too bad for that nay-sayer that she (or he) hasn’t found this. Perhaps when she changes her outlook to a more positive one, she will be able to find it too.

Post # 5
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1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know what you mean!  I’ll be 25 when I’m married, and our relationship will be about as long as yours too.  Too bad ageism isn’t as frowned-upon in our society as racism and sexism are.

Post # 6
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Don’t feel bad.  It’s not an age thing.  Everyone said the same thing to me too, and I was getting married at 26 after four years of being together.  My SIL got married at 29 and heard the SAME thing.  I don’t know what people are thinking…like you’re just going to rip the ring off right there and cancel the wedding?  Yeah right.  Just ignore those people.  Or point out how unhappy they are in their own life that they can’t just be happy for you and yours!

Post # 8
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988 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know what you mean! I am 23 and have been with Fiance for over 5 years. So many people tell me I am dumb for getting married. Some of my older relatives look at me like I am throwing my whole life away. Someone even said “Don’t you have any aspirations?” Uh WTF? Both Fiance and I have our B.S and I fifnished beauty school. We are also going enroll in Grad school the semester after the wedding…so I don’t see where the “no aspirations” comment applies!

Post # 9
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690 posts
Busy bee

Really?  Both my Fiance and I will be 25 when we get married, and I haven’t had anyone say anything about my age.  More like “it’s about time already!” since we’ve been dating for over 7 years.

Post # 10
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1046 posts
Bumble bee

Ummm yeah… when we got married at the Justice of the Peace our two witnesses (supposedly our really good friends) said “well you’re stuck with her now… no sex anymore dude” and then his wife said “don’t forget… you can still get this annulled for 24 hours”. I was like ehhhh okay, you two are for sure not coming to the big ceremony in October. Who knows what they hell yall would come up with!

People are just weird :/

Post # 11
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee

I got married at 22, and am still married to the man of my dreams after almost 30 years!!!  When you know it’s right -just smile and nod.  And Congratulations! 🙂

Post # 13
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193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know what you mean! Fiance and I have been together since high school. So that means that we have been together for 8 years this October and we have been living together for 4 years and we have been engaged for 2 years. I say that they can kiss my butt.

Post # 14
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525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m not sure it’s an age thing… I mean, I’m 39 and *several* people told me “don’t do it”. I’ve known him for 7.5 yrs and we’ve been living together for 7 yrs and yet they say “don’t do it”. I don’t know why they do it *shrug*

Post # 15
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2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

LOL You sound exactly like me! I have also wondered whatever happened to a “congratulations!”. I had a lot of people give that reaction, who knew nothing about me or our relationship. I think that people just have such a negative outlook on marriage nowadays, but it is still most definitely rude for them to react this way. Apparently they think they’re being helpful, I just think they sound like asses though.

Post # 16
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Take note of anyone who says “don’t do it” these are the people who shouldn’t be in your life. If they are in your family, well, just keep your distance and set a clear boundary that their opions should be kept to themselves.

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