(Closed) “Don’t eat that! You have a wedding dress to wear.” Rant

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Uggg I hear ya! People are crazy.

I was telling my mother in law that I didn’t like the way my shoulders looked in one of my dresses and shes like well you have a week, women usually stop eating, you can too. [shes foreign & means it in the nices way possible] I was like umm okay, thanks!

Eat the cake and enjoy your life, you will fit fine into your wedding dress and look beautiful!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Maybe she is getting concerned about her own weight with the wedding 100 days away so it’s always on her mind?  I find that sometimes when I’m angry or upset at myself for doing/saying something, I often call Fiance out for doing/saying that same thing.  I know it doesn’t make sense but I think it’s because it’s on my mind. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

When I read the title of the post I thought – did you punch that person in the neck?

Now that I read it, it is prob not the best plan to punch mom in the neck, but a good evil eye would prob work just as well. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@tksjewelry:  LOL, no punching Mom in the neck.  But the evil eye is good.  Like this:

Post # 7
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

ive struggled with weight issues but ive never had someone come out and say something because im a private person about that and dont talk about it so im wondering if you had talked about your dress concerns in the past and they think in some twisted way they are helping you keep on track

Post # 8
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

i still get it too! from everyone! then i decided stuff it. Why does everyone want to be skinny! I have always been this size and i am healthy so i decided to keep eating healthy and not try loose weight. i think its more to proove a point though

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think a “Well, that was rude and unnecessary,” delivered in a tone of mild surprise (at THEIR RUDENESS, naturally), should be sufficient to make most people reconsider and apologize.

 

Post # 10
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536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I hear ya.  I got so sick of hearing that when I was engaged.  I mostly just laughed it off though.  Then went for the second piece of cake.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I got a comment from a family member on Thanksgiving. Fi and I went to both families – lunch and dinner. When we got to the second gathering, we were still a little full, so we didn’t want to eat another meal and be stuffed. I ate dessert later in the evening, and a great aunt told me ‘You need to becareful. You have a dress you’ve got to fit into.’ I laughed at the time, but I was so stunned. I’ve already lost about 20 lbs in the past 6 months. 

Post # 12
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1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ugh… I know how you feel. I get this at work too… People “reminding” me that I have a dress to fit into in 9 months. It really has started to bother me. My dress can’t really be let out, so if I gain even an inch around my hips I’m kinda screwed. I worry about it enough, I don’t need other people reminding me too!

Post # 14
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i know its so annoying….

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

It hasn’t happened to me yet (even though it is no secret that I am trying to lose weight) but it happened to my Future Sister-In-Law. She had put on some weight since moving in with her Fiance. I thought this was good because before then she had been (in my opinion) way too skinny. At every family gathering her insensitive brother would make stupid comments like “oooo going for another piece of cake there, fatty?” and things like that. To make matters worse, everyone would all laugh but I always felt awful for her. She ended up losing over 20 pounds in less than 2 months and her dress just hung off of her bones. Poor thing….

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@heather5743:  It happens to me every day I speak to my mother or grandfather!  They think it’s okay to constantly comment on people’s weight.  Last time I went home, I had lost a couple lbs and they commented and I had to be like this is not a Weight Watchers meeting!!!  I mean, I’m ok with the nice comments, but not the rude ones when it’s PMS or whatever and I can’t help that I gain 2 lbs.  

I have read so many times that you have to let yourself have “bad snacks” and it’s actually good for your weight loss.  If you really want Skittles, eat em!  Because if you don’t, you’ll eat 100 of something else to try and get rid of the craving.  I’ve just started saying that I can eat my cake and look damn good doing it.  They shut up.

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