(Closed) Don't even know where to start

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
475 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Dont be nervous.. That’s their job! They will give you all different styles to try so you can figure out what you like best. It wont be so bad!

Post # 4
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@nightborn:  Try on a bunch of different styles and see if something speaks to you.  If it doesn’t, maybe a less traditional option (a custom wedding suit?) would be better.

Post # 5
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think you should give the sales people a shot!  My sales woman picked out the first dress I tried on.  It wasn’t something I would have picked or even looked twice at..and guess what? Its the one I ended up buying!  I tried on the dresses my mom and I had picked out and they couldn’t compare to the first dress!  The saleswoman, Valerie, kept telling me “I’m telling you, this is the only dress you will have to try on.  It fits you perfectly!” For only knowing me all of 5 minutes, man did she call that one! lol So you might be pleasantly surprised by their suggestions!

Post # 6
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@nightborn:  Don’t sweat it! Just try stuff on. I went in assuming I liked fitted lace, but I tried on lots of other fabrics and styles just to be sure. 

You’d be surprised how many different styles are out there! Not all dresses are white, sparkly, lacy princess gowns ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 7
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I also liked Pinterest for this issue. I thought I didn’t know what I wanted, but then just pinned anything I saw that I liked, and when I looked at the whole board after a few days a couple common threads jumped out at me. It helped for giving the consultant a starting point… but as prior posters have said, they’re professionals and show be able to get you started with lots of options that are right for your body!

Post # 8
9549 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Go try some stuff on! That way you can actually see what you like and what you don’t like.

Post # 9
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I looked around and didn’t really know, but I had an idea– and I got a lot more direction from one appointment.

Definitely go try some on!

Post # 11
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Maybe you could post a pic of yourself and get advice on what would most flatter your figure. Also time, venue and overall “feel” of wedding you are going for. When you go shopping just enjoy playing dress up and keep an open mind. If I was a bridal consultant I would have more fun helping someone who was open to ideas rather than someone who came in looking for something very specific so I wouldn’t worry about that. 

Post # 12
9549 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@nightborn:  If you really don’t know where to start I would suggest – COMFORT! This was big on my priority list and I made a point to sit, dance, jump and “drop it like it’s hot” in all my contenders! Beyond that, I would start trying on various silouettes (basically the shape of the dress – mostly the skirt) and see what you like. Then you can progress to fabric and bling level and such.

Post # 13
3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would perhaps think about what your personal style is on a day to day basis…for example, if you’re pretty minimalist when it comes to your normal wardrobe, you’re probably not going to want a meringue-like princess gown for your big day. I would let that inform the types of dresses you select. Also, have you found a venue? That would certainly influence what you wear.

But honestly, I would just make a few dress appointments and have some fun with it. Don’t get stressed out by the experience, don’t let yourself get pushed into making a decision straight away. If you feel like your friends are going to be very opinionated and perhaps confuse you further, I would go a couple of times alone at first, so you have a clearer idea of what you want. Also, if you find traditional wedding dress stores too intimidating, maybe start with department stores that have bridal departments, or somewhere like BHLDN where it’s a bit more modern and relaxed. 

Post # 15
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Hello lovely.

I am a bridal consultant, and I wouldn’t dream of thinking that you’re wasting our time!!!

I love getting to know my brides, and helping them find a dress that suits their style.

Having someone come in for their first ever appointment when they have no idea what they will like, is the MOST fun ever! ๐Ÿ™‚

We’re here to help. Don’t be nervous!

It’s our job! xxx

Post # 16
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@nightborn:  Well, I was going to tell you to start with what would be the most flattering to your body type, but then I saw you posted a pic. That’s not going to be much help because it looks like you’d look good in just about anything!

They do say that petite women can be easily overwhelmed in larger ballgowns, but I’ve seen it pulled off. I’d do what others have suggested and let the venue/formality help make the choice for you. On the bright side, not having any sort of dream dress frees you up to get something pretty but fairly cheap from a place like Davids or on sale. If it all winds up being the same one way or the other, at least you can save some money!

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