(Closed) Don’t even want to get married now

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7298 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

🙁 It’s so sad. I couldn’t believe it when I heard on Friday. As much as it sucks, you have to move on. You don’t want to dwell in it, and people will need a happy celebration to just take their minds off of it for even just a minute. *hugs*

Post # 4
18626 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry for the tragedy in your country.  I know it’s hard but it’s best to try and keep some normalcy.  It helps you realize that life does go on, even though you and your country are never the same you can grow and conquer after this.  Sorry for sounding so lame!

Post # 5
8734 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Are you in Norway?

Sometimes happiness and joy can help the healing process. Any it will be a welcome distraction from the tragedy that has occurred.

Post # 6
1279 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I can hardly imagine what a shock this must have been. I”ve been to Oslo twice and when i heard the news i couldn’t believe it. I never thought this would happen in a country like Norway, like you said it is such a peaceful and small place.

It’s so sad and i’m so sorry for you! I don’t really know what else to say 🙁

Post # 8
2389 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree with pp. I think that the best thing for you, your family and your country to do is to try to maintain some kind of structure and normalcy. That doesn’t mean youve forgotten or are disrespecting those who were lost in the tragedy, but rather that you are able to carry on with those lost in your hearts.

Post # 9
2545 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m truly sorry. My heart aches, for those poor people, their families and your country. It is such a tragedy.

Please let yourself move forward, and be happy on your day. Everyone needs something to get their minds off of it, and this might help you and others to help move forward, for even one evening.

You, the victims, and your country will be in my thoughts and prayers. <3

Post # 10
627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Big hugs to you and your country. 

Take time to grieve and put wedding planning aside for a day or two, or ask your Fiance, if he is in a better headspace, to take the reigns. 

The wedding will likely be a needed reprieve from the sorrow. 

Post # 11
5089 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@norwegianbride: I’m so, so sorry. It is absolutely sickening and heartbreaking what that terrorist did. I’ve been thinking of Norway these last few days. It’s one of the most beautiful countries I ever visited, and I hope that as a nation it can rise above this tragedy to fight against hate and bigotry.  I wish you all comfort and healing.

Post # 12
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I am so, so sorry.

But I truly believe that your wedding will be an opportunity for people to remember that there are some truly joyful things in this world, still; even though it seems as though it’s stopped turning.

Post # 13
511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You sound like you have a very kind, and loving heart. Maybe to help with rememberance and grieving, at the wedding you could have a moment where the minister says something in honor of the victims and the pride of your country.

So sorry for your loss. 🙁

Post # 14
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Please don’t let that bastard take more from you than he already has. Use your wedding as a time of happiness is all the tragedy. Maybe add a moment of silence or a special prayer of rememberance during the ceremony. My heart goes out to you and all Norwegians.

Post # 15
1826 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@norwegianbride:  I’m so sorry, my heart absolutely breaks for you and the people of Norway.  You have an amazingly beautiful country with some of the world’s most amazing people and I am still in shock that something like this has happened.  I know no words from anyone else can make things better but just know you’re in the thoughts of millions of people around the world. 

I know having a wedding celebration is the furthest thing from your mind right now, I don’t blame you.  This a tragedy beyond belief and it’s perfectly normal for the entire country (and the world) to be grieving right now.  That being said, I think it is important for you to try and get some sense of normalcy back as soon as possible.  

I think you should go ahead and have your wedding on Saturday, but maybe make some minor changes to reflect the current time.  It will be a very different wedding celebration than what you had probably envisioned, but I think it’s still important you go ahead.   There are many ways you can honour the victims of the tragedy and be sensitive whilst still celebrating that love and joy are still possible in Norway, despite what this terrorist did.  During your ceremony, have your officiant make a special mention to the victims of the tragedy; before dinner, have a moment of silence for the victims; perhaps leave some candles burning somewhere during the ceremony/reception to honour the lives that were lost.    It willl of course be on everyone’s mind but I bet most of your guests will be happy that there is something happy and wonderful to celebrate in the midst of all this tragedy.

Big hugs are going out to you and the rest of Norway.  You will all continue to be in our thoughts.

Post # 16
3135 posts
Sugar bee

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@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: <– Well said.

Don’t help this man get what he wants (if it was all him, I’m not up to speed on new developments). 

Show your love and commitment even in the face of tragedy.

I’m sending you my strength and good wishes from Canada



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