(Closed) “Don’t go to a Catholic church, you were raised Christian!”

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Corilee13: I’m not Catholic, or particularly christian, but just the title reminded me of a friend from high school. One day we were talking religions and she said “I’m not christian, I’m catholic”. We all thought it was hilarious, but hearing it said again, maybe Catholics are just Catholics, not christian to others/themselves. Just an idea maybe? lol

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i’m freaking dying over here lol. you’re not confused, they are. or ignorant. either way, Catholics = Christians.

in answer to your question, i can’t really offer particular advice. this wall-eyed crazy lady at work was trying to tell me some random completely untrue things that Catholics believe and i just had to sit there, stifle my amusement-turned-annoyance and try to correct her. in my experience here in the Bible Belt, it’s usually the Baptists that have the most misconceptions.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Well that’s good you’re going back, and I know that at least 1 bee if not others will come back at me for this but in alot of ways Catholicism doesn’t match many biblical Christian beliefs… this coming from my own research of scripture, history of the religion, and Darling Husband who was raised Catholic.

I’m sure that’s why you got the reaction you got.

As for dealing with it… forgive… let it go.. and ask God to help keep your heart clean and pure b/c He knows that’s going to be hard.

Pray and repent when you get that ugh anger junk in you and forgive again… that’s how you deal. ๐Ÿ˜‰

EDIT: The family is probably reacting like that b/c of their own conviction… offense = conviction not wanting to be accepting… so they lash out b/c they don’t want to look at themselves, submit back to God, and stop doing their own way.

Again… forgive, repent, forgive, repent… and tell yourself “they need Jesus” until it settles in your heart and they don’t anger you anymore <– this does work ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

This is actually something that I’ve noticed among people I know.  I was baptized Catholic, but now consider myself non-denominational Christian.  More spiritual than religious.  Anyway, we know a few other couples who are evangelical Protestants…very devout, very involved in their church, etc.  You would not BELIEVE that hate that they spout about Catholics.  They spout hate about a lot of things, but I (like you) thought that Christians were Christians and all groups would get along.  Not so, I guess.

Their argument is centered mostly on “archaic teachings” (even though their beliefs are totally in line with whey they are considering archaic) and the actions of priests and bishops in relation to molestation cases.

Why must religion always breed hate?  *le sigh*

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Honestly, your Fi should be making decisions like this (i.e. religious decisions) for himself, not based on how his parents feel.  Who cares if they throw a fit?  It’s his decision to make, not theirs.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

That’s lame!  No disrespect to your future Mother-In-Law, but it sounds like having rational discussions about religion with her probably won’t work…so I would say just don’t talk to her about it.  If she tries to bring it up in a combative way, don’t engage.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@ThunderBunny b/c religion is man-made and every man likes to be right! best to get as much teaching as you can, study the scriptures on your own, and spend alot of time in prayer asking for revelation…. AND to keep your heart clean when you see things like you talked about… so you can forgive, get your heart right, and then be used to make light to the right way of thinking and acting to those who aren’t acting very nice ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

@Corilee13: It’s too bad more people don’t believe that. If everyone stopped judging each other for not being religion XYZ, and just focused on being a good human being, the world would be a better place. I agree that it’s his decision, not his parents’.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Well…. I would think that the best way to go would be to find a good bible teaching church.. b/c really there should be a level of grace, especially to those who don’t know who God is, but there should also be a level of expectance of truth to be taught. I mean I love people, and people who don’t know and follow Jesus aren’t “bad” but they aren’t right either… not according to scripture. And God doesn’t “hate” anyone… but He does hate sin…. b/c of how destructive it is and what it does to us. If a pastor I was getting teaching from didn’t hold that biblical conviction I’d be worried. lol

Just keep praying… and keep submitting that. There will be a time when God will bring that totally out of you.. just keep doing it.

Like how David was constantly asking, begging, pleading with God to check his heart and make it new, remove the old and give a fresh light  =)

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some people are just like that.  I’m catholic and my mom would flip out if we went to a non-catholic church.

Years ago, while I was conflicted about the catholic churches teachings, I explored my FI’s (FI at the time, now DH) church, which is lutheran.  During this time, my Mother-In-Law would rant about how messed up the catholic church is.

Yeah, you are going to see it on both sides.  People who can’t stand catholics and catholic who can’t stand any other religion. 

I would let your Fiance decide for himself what he wants to do. If he doesn’t like the catholic church, then he doesn’t like it. If he likes it then you will probably have to have a serious discussion with his mother.  Similar to the discussion I had with my Mother-In-Law that the decisions that me and the Darling Husband make as a couple should be respected.

ETA: Oh, my husband and his family were church go-ers when he was a child but don’t really go regularly like catholic do.  My husband does want our children to be raised lutheran.  I told him that if he starts going to church when I get preganant and continues to do so, I will go with my family to his church.  If he doesn’t make an effort to go to church, then I will be taking our kids to my catholic church. That’s what we agreed in when we got married.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

@runsyellowlites:  <3  That is exactly the type of mindset that I feel is in short supply.  Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚

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