(Closed) Don’t hate the player hate the game…

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it has. We got a wedding invite in the mail the other day for my sister’s SIL’s wedding addressed to Ms Nqz100 and Guest. Fiance and I have been together longer than she has even known the guy she is marrying and she is fully aware of FI’s name–they are even FB friends. I was on the phone with my sister asking her what the F… Before, I would never have thought twice about it.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I totally understand this. But not everyone has found WB 🙂

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

If anything wedding planning has made me less judgemental. Now that I truly understand the expense behind everything I give people more slack. People have to make really difficult choices about where to budget their time/money.

Also, now that I get unrequested opinions about many details of my wedding I’ve learned when to keep my mouth shut.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think wedding planning has made me more aware of silly etiquette that no one expects you to follow. Before WB, I thought it was normal for the registry card to be included in invites. In the past 7 years, they have been in every wedding invite I have seen.
I think I’ve become less judgemental because I respect brides who decide not to follow all the rules. You want fake flowers? Have them! You want jello shots? Have them! I think I now appreciate what a wedding means to people and I have opened my eyes and realized you don’t have to have white dress, tiered cake, tuxedos, favors, ect. I realized that some people treat their wedding like a family reunion. I’ve realized some people treat it like the social event of the decade.

So with weddingbee and planning my own wedding, I have become more understanding. Now, the few months I was on The Knot? I would have totally knocked someone with fake flowers.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I thik I am less judgmental like PPs said—since I now understand that there are millions of people out there who don’t want to be traditional or who just have taste that is different from ours. Most of the weddings in our social circle have been very similar so I find WB & the wedding TV shows very interesting and enlightening.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Totally. I also agree though that I would never ever say it outloud (other than maybe to DH). I love seeing so many different and cool things that people do at weddings, but I can’t help but gloat a little when I think my invitations (or whatever) are better. But then again I’m a little biased 😉  HOWEVER, before we got married if I saw something totally cool at a wedding, I totally stole the idea for our own! LOL! Specialty coffee bar? Check!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

@ Ms Tattoo: Jello shots!!?!? Yessssssss

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Miss Tattoo: Jello shots have seriously crossed my mind! I guess I’m being a little hypocritical, eh?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Darling Husband and I were totally like that. He didn’t do even a fraction of the work/research/DIY I did and he still made those comments to me. I think it’s only natural when you spend so much time on something that you just become overly critical.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i feel completely on both sides about this, in one hand when I go to a wedding (4 since we got engaged earlier this year!) I pay attention to every detail and have a comment. However; I also respect it’s their day and they should do things they like.  i guess I am more judgmental on things like one wedding the bride only went around to the tables on her family’s side which I definitely told Fiance was completely wrong but what people chose for favors, colors, guest book and music I said whatever, it’s about them.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I actually think it’s made me LESS judgemental because now I know how hard it is to plan one and to try to keep everyone happy!

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