(Closed) Don’t know about my BM

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1898 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Honestly it sounds like your sister is going to react badly to being kicked out of the bridal party. Plus, there is no guarantee that she won’t ruin the wedding even if she is just a guest. Is there anyone besides you who can handle your sister well? Maybe you can assign this person to “watch” your sister during the wedding? Honestly it seems like there is nothing you can do, but I would leave her in the bridal party since it will likely cause her to flip out from what it sounds like.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would not have her be a bridesmaid. If you want her at your wedding and want her to do something, have her pass out programs or ask people to sign the guest book. I am in a situation with one of my sisters too. One of my sisters is in my wedding party and the other sister doesn’t even know I am getting married. I go back and forth on the sister not knowing, but I just can’t risk her having a bad day and starting something. For the most part, I have made peace with this. The only time it is really bothersome is when other people bring it up. They want me to include her and invite her, but she is not a good sister and I have done all in my power to get a long with her, and she just messes it up, so I am basically done with her at this point, unless something drastic happens and she cleans up her act. I wish you the best with your decision. Just remember, it is yours and your FI’s day, so you both need to set things up the way that will be best for you.

Post # 7
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1898 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Honestly, it sounds like she shouldn’t be invited. If there is that big of a risk that she is going to ruin your day, I don’t think its worth it, especially if you two are not close. I don’t know how your family would react to her not being invited, but it seems like if everyone knows what she is like, they might understand.

So I take back my original statement. It seemed from your original post that you two were close, and others were afraid of her causing an issue. If you are not close, and she is so clearly unhinged, I don’t see any benefit of either inviting her or having her in the bridal party.

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