(Closed) Don't know how I feel about this…

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
4311 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Sarahsaurus:  Now is the time to get the ring you want.  I would talk to that jeweler about replicating the ring you love so much.

Post # 4
9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I say who cares what a snooty jeweler thinks.  They are so brainwashed to think that diamonds are the absolute best and only option.  There’s some rationale behind that (how hard & durable they are, etc) but the times are a changing – people wear gemstones, moissanite, or NO ring and that’s just fine.  I think this is just a case of the Wedding Industrial Complex trying to assert what’s best for you, when really YOU know what’s best for you.

ETA: you could always get your dream ring recreated by a jeweler now or in the future!

Post # 5
9887 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Sarahsaurus:   CZ’s are beautiful and so are white sapphires.  The jeweler was most likely making an assumption due to the size and sparkliness of the stone.  If it has a great sparkle factor then it must be very well cut.  I wouldn’t take what he said as an insult at all or an indication that your stone looks “fake” or “cheap.”  But I also see no harm in asking your Fiance about a possible upgrade in the future since you’re saving so much money now (which is a smart thing to do!).  Your Fiance may agree with you if you ask him.  Once you’re married and financially established for a few years, upgrading on an anniversary or special occasion is something a lot of people do.


Post # 6
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Could you at some point replace the white sapphire for a purple one? Anniversary gift somewhere down the line? Would that help? I would think most jewelers would know stones, but who knows? Maybe that’s just the most common thing to replace diamonds? You shouldn’t worry about what one person says though. The most important thing is how you feel about it.

Post # 7
6355 posts
Bee Keeper

I think the jeweler just thought it was a CZ because they aren’t that familiar with lab sapphs and all they noticed was that it had a flatter, whiter look than a diamomd has.

Jewelers don’t tend to like lab stones of any kind (it’s like how coffee connoisseurs don’t like instant coffee or wine buffs don’t like boxed wine, etc.) but I’m not sure why you see a lab sapph and a CZ somehow very differently… on the one hand you say you’re aware it looks larger and more affordable than a diamond, but on the other hand you don’t want it to be seen as “cheap and fake”. To me these are “nice” and “not-nice” ways of saying the same thing, am I misunderstanding something?

Personally, I would recommend resetting with an affordable natural colored gemstone, but that’s because my preference is natural things and avoiding anything that might be perceived as a simulant, and synthetics. You can get a high quality natural gemstone for an affordable price if you choose one that isn’t too rare. Then there would certainly be nothing “fake” about it no matter how you think about “fakeness”.

Post # 8
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yep. I’m in the camp of get your dream ring and now is the time to do it. My original e-ring was something that was based on what I originally wanted. And it was close…super, super close. Like so close that I’m not sure the normal eye could tell the difference. But I knew and on some level it bothered me. Everytime I looked at my ring I couldn’t believe it was mine.

We chose to go that route b/c it was 2k cheaper. But when my Fiance told me he would have gotten me the other I was all over it. We talked about it and he decided to take me to get the ring I really wanted. We are selling the other.

I am IN LOVE with my ring. We kept the original diamond, only the setting is different. And I just love it. I look at it and it just FEELS right.


Yes. Talk to your Fiance and jewler.



About the stone…are you certain it’s a real sapphire? I’m not sure how one could tell? Are purple sapphires expensive?

Post # 9
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would look into buying a purple sapphire to put in the Tiffany setting. Purple stones with rose gold are gorgeous! Then one day you can have the stone re-set into your dream setting. I really believe you are going to regret going with a white sapphire since it was not in your original vision and you are already doubting it. It honestly was kind of a left-field decision for someone who loves purple stones!

http://www.pricescope.com/forum/colored-stones/ <- There are two threads there that will be very useful to you, both are stickied. Check out “New to buying colored gems…read this first” and “Can we start a new thread with respected CS vendors?”. 

If budget won’t allow for a purple sapphire at all right now, a beautifully saturated AAA amethyst is an affordable and gorgeous solution. 

Post # 12
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Sarahsaurus:  Have you asked how much it would cost to recreate what you want? Or will the Esty seller set it in one of her settings?


I just found her on Etsy. Everything is really distinct and freakin’ gorgeous. I love love love rose gold…I’ll be getting it as my band. But I feel what you described as your second choice does sound compeltely different as to what I see on the site.


She’s got this on there right now…Is this close?

Post # 13
2710 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

@Sarahsaurus:  I hope you fall madly in love with the ring once it’s on your finger, and don’t give the other once a second thought!

Maybe you will get an upgrade someday to your dream ring. 

I love lab created gemtsones, and white sapphires are so, so pretty, I think they are so interesting to see in various lighting, and outside in the sun they glow, I adore them! 

I think your ring is going to be gorgeous, rose gold is so lovely!

Post # 15
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I know nothing about diamonds, stones or anything, I only know what I like. And I say if it’s pretty and it sparkles and you love it, who gives a flute what anyone else says? My set is blue topaz and I had a custom band made to go with my ering. Will most people think it looks like a traditional wedding set? Nope! Is it pretty, and blue and sparkly? Yup! And I love it!!

Post # 16
2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Actually you should be flattered, and very happy.  Typically white sapphires don’t posess fire the way a CZ would, unless they’re very, very well cut.  If he was seeing enough flashes of fire to make him think it was a CZ, you have a very beautiful sapphire there.

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