(Closed) Don't know how to feed our guests… help, please!

posted 7 years ago in Food
Post # 3
7310 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Can you adjust your timeline to do a mid-afternoon or very late evening reception with cold munchies, dessert, and non-alcoholic drinks? That could really cut down on your costs and your headaches. I would do platters of food that can be set out ahead of time, like veggies and dip, fruit skewers, various cheeses with crackers, and other relatively straightforward options. Then do cake or a pie bar or something like that. That way you don’t need to worry about having people serve the food and such.

Post # 4
11519 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

totally get where you’re coming from!


If you have platters of finger sandwiches, salads, pies etc you’ll be fine.  I would include on your invite ‘light refreshments to follow’ so people don’t expect a full dinner.

Post # 5
3682 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What’s your budget and what do you have left that you can put towards food? So 50% of your entire budget is going towards just renting the venue with nothing included?

Post # 6
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ladydawg86: as you’re willing to cook.



Many of these are okay to be served not-hot or to served cold. Also, if it’s something like chilli, you can use a portable hot plate to warm. Don’t worry, you have enough time. You’ll figure it out. Can I ask your budget for food?

Post # 7
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn

I think you should go old school and totally rock the cake and punch reception! Maybe add in some veggie trays, fruit trays, little snacky things you can make yourself.

Post # 8
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

A few ideas-

Change it to a brunch or late night cocktail reception.  That way you only have to buy finger foods and a signature drink.

Tap into your social network- you’d be shocked what people are wiling to do if you just ask! We have a cousin catering (owns a restaurant), Maid/Matron of Honor making cake, friends/family making desserts, my bro’s friend bartending, etc. etc. Not to mention an old friend from high school is trying to get into floral work (done deal!), etc.  

Post # 9
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2001

@ladydawg86:  Could you ask family members to bring a dish to share as part of their gift. It would be super fun if there was a ton of different dishes! like a mega buffet. 

Im getting all my deserts from Sam’s club. 775 mini servings for 200 bucks!! Good Luck!


Post # 10
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

back in the day before weddings became this exspenive big thing,many people had weddings at their houses/back yards,churches.

my parents family and frienda all piched in and made all the food,meatballs ect and it was wonderful i heard.

lots of people nowadays are doing bbq’s ect.could you do something like that to?a garden wedding?

Post # 11
2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Before you do anything, make sure your venue allows you to bring in homemade food. Some places have rules against it for food safety reasons.

Post # 12
9054 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

If 50% of your budget is just the venue then I would seriously rethink the venue. If you look at it this way you are saying that a building is more important than your guests.

Change your venue to a community hall or park and I would suggest changing the wedding time to a morning or afternoon and providing morning or afternoon tea instead of a lunch or dinner.


Post # 13
11268 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@ladydawg86:  how is 50% of your budget going to just the venue rental???  usually that % would include the food and drink too.  i think you need to rethink this wedding and your priorities.


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@j_jaye:  i totally agree.

Post # 14
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

When my Maid/Matron of Honor got married, they did an evening ceremony (at like 7pm) followed by desserts and drinks.  It was awesome!  I helped bake a bunch of the desserts – a few pies, some brownies, various types of cookies – and she purchased a wedding cake, some candy options, and fruit trays.

Post # 15
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I would rethink your budget. Do you have to have 145 guests? There are tons of places that are very cheap or free! I honestly don’t feel like one day is worth all of that money esp. if you don’t really have it to spend. I would rather have a handful of friends and family and amazing meal and lots of laughs, then crackers and cheese in a pretty room. I think quality over quantity is the key here. 

Post # 16
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

When my best friend got married, they literally threw the wedding and reception together in 10 days (long story). I believe the (very short) wedding ceremony was at 7 and the reception was immediately after, in the church basement. Due to budget and time restraints, they just served cake, punch, and an assortment of desserts (her family is Italian and Colombian so they had a nice variety, which was awesome) and everyone loved it! Personally, my favorite part of any meal is dessert, so that was more than fine with me 🙂

She didn’t have this at her reception, but I had one at my graduation open house and it was a huge hit – a chocolate fountain! See if anyone you know has one and provide a fruit tray, graham crackers, vanilla wafers, etc! I still have people tell me 6 years later that they remembered and loved my chocolate fountain!

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