- 7 years ago
I need help with a bridesmaid Dilemma. I am definitely having 5 bridesmaids who are composed of family members and childhood friends. There are two, however, who I am unsure of. The 6th would be one of my best friends from college who I truly would like in the wedding party. The problem is I am on the boarder of asking my other good friend from college (she would make 7) but feel as if I cannot ask number 6 without asking her. (to sum up I would like the 6 for sure but know that if I dont ask bridesmaid 7 from college it will create a huge drama fest scene)
Here is some background. “Would-be bridesmaid number 7” and I have been good friends in college. We roomed three years together and considered each other “best friends” However, sometimes I feel as if my relationship with her is very one sided. For example, when things suite her it is fine, but when they don’t look out. For the first two years of my relationship she was bitter/would make snarkky remarks/not even acknowledge my relationship with no fiancee out of jealously. However, as soon as things started going up in her life and SHE GOT A BOYFRIEND EVERYTHING WAS A_OKAY!. This just kind of bothers me because I feel like that says alot about somone’s character. She is also the person who was like in complete shock when we got engaged. Giving the more ” oh my god I cant believe you guys are getting married. this is insane” over a congrats. There have been some other things over the past few years that have bothered me about her as well (ie:just think she is living in her own world and if the situation suits her then its good but if it doesn’t then she will judge etc)
I have always considered her a good friend but there are surely some things that have made me view her as a good friend rather than a best friend anymore. Some of my best friends would have never pulled stuff she has pulled. However, we are still good friends (she doesn’t know my opinion has changed of her over the past few years but it certainly has)
Now what do I do. If I ask my one friend from college and not her then I know that our relationship will probably be severed forever, but I am very weary to have her as a bridesmaid because I believe the others have been better friends to me. Basically I would just be asking her to keep peace since I really want bridesmaid number 6.
What should I do/ What would you do? DO I have all 7. DO I just have 5 and eliminate both friends from college or do I bag a ballsy move and ask just the six of them??
P.s–this is my own fault for never addressing each issue with her before, but this is what it is. HELP