Post # 1
Looking for some advice from you ladies….
We have been ttc for 2 years now with no BFP. I am 27 and Darling Husband is 34, we are both healthy… we got a SA for him which looked great, even the doctor said “Theres no doubt you can get someone pregnant” (which I kindof hated hearing because it made me feel like it was my fault now! ugh). BUT I had a basic pannel of hormones done and an HSG, both normal. I am extremely regular, I track BBT and use OPKs… preseed, vitamins, fertility teas, etc. The OBGYN even gave me three months of clomid to see it that would help, but nope…. so here we are 2 years later, everyone pregnant around us… and no reason of why we can’t get preggers.
So my question is, what’s next?! I don’t know if we should just stop everything and enjoy life… and see what happens. I know i am young, as every doctor points out, but I also know i am not getting any younger and years keep creeping by.
Or… do we finally see a fertility specialist? I have an appt in two weeks… the costs are intimidating since insurance doesnt cover it… and if we are truly “unexplained” what can they do for us? IVF is a no go because of finicials and just not comfortable with it… so maybe IUIs? But the success rates are conflicting…and I hated being on clomid, so do I really want more drugs?
Or… I started seeing an accupunturist that specializes in fertility…. do I continue on a more holistic approach and see if that helps? Also expensive but relaxing too.
I know that no one else can truly answer these questions for it is our decision whats next BUT I need some guidance. Does any one have any thoughts or success with one of the other?
I just feel so lost and alone… and i dont feel as if I have any friends to turn to about this. They listen but no one really understands my pain…
Post # 2
If I was in your position (only 27), I’d meet with an RE (maybe more than 1?) and see what they recommend/what the costs would be. Then, I’d give holistic treatment a go for a year. During that time, I would save for fertility treatment/decide what treatments I would be comfortable pursuing. Sorry you’re dealing with this.
Post # 3
HughJazz: Thank you for your reply!! That is a great idea and i think that is something I will bring up to the hubby! =)
Post # 4
I’d at least meet with an RE and see if maybe there’s something they can do. I agree with PP, start saving for treatments if you decide to go that route. I’m sorry you feel so alone, many of us dealing with trouble TTC feel the same. There are some great supportive boards up here, try joining the TTC +1 year board, those ladies up there may be able to help since they’re also undergoing various treatments for TTC.
Post # 5
Sbee82: I also agree with scheduling an initial appt. to meet with a RE. I worked with my OBGYN for several months during which we were both tested. My Darling Husband had a SA which was normal and I had blood tests that were all normal and still no results. She also put me on 3 months of Clomid that did not work.
I finally decided to see a RE and after initial testing I was dianosed with PCOS (skinny) at age 32, which my OBGYN never even considered and also greatly surprised me. We are now on a plan that specifically addresses my PCOS. Hopefully, an RE can help to pinpoint a more specific treatment plan for you!
Post # 6
My RE said that IUI’s were only marginally better chances if the SA comes back with good results. Personally, I’d go to the appointment just to discuss options, but maybe try a little longer since you are still young. I was in the same position but 33-34 yrs old. I’m unexplained and doing IVF. I did 4 cycles of IUIs (even though Darling Husband SA results were great) with Clomid and Femera and no BFPs.
Post # 7
Try not to get too down about it – I just wanted to let you know that I watched my brother and sister-in-law go through something similiar – unexplained infertility – and it took them 2 years, but they are due for their first baby in 3 weeks. From an outside perspective, it looked like it happened for them when she finally stopped stressing about it. She topped taking her temperature etc. She was 36 and he was 28 – so don’t feel too down… it’ll happen – stay positive 🙂
Post # 8
I agree with PP’s….see the fertility specialist and continue with holistic for now. I have a friend who had unexplained infertility and it took them about 5 years to get pregnant. Im not sure what she did (Im not close enough to ask) but I know, due to her age, she wasn’t willing to go through IVF at that point. She was around your age when it finally happened.
Post # 9
Definitely meet with a fertility doctor (RE). At your age, 1 year of trying with no pregnancy warrants going to one. You don’t have to do what they recommend, but it helps to get information.
I went to an RE and had an IUI — it was not expensive (but I have decent insurance). By not expensive, I mean a hundred bucks out of pocket for everything? And if you are taking Clomid, you should be being monitored closely by a doctor to see if it is working, etc. — so I would definitely see a specialist and/or different doctor. Good luck.
Post # 10
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I would at least meet with a fertility specialist (or two!) to see what they would recommend as far as additional testing to see if there is an explainable reason to point to. Hearing their recommendations can’t hurt, right? You can still persue holistic treatments while meeting to hear your options. You can also use the time to save for fertility treatments or adoption, if you are open to those options. Good luck on getting your BFP soon!
Post # 11
I have a close friend with unexplained infertility. They did manage a pregnancy which ended in a still birth due to genetic abnormalities. For them, due to the genetic issue scaring my friend, their next step will be IVF. She has tried 3 or 4 fertility drugs and acupuncture and has been trying for at least 2.5 years.
Everyone is different. But speaking with a specialist will help you make the best decision. She is also 27.