(Closed) Don't know what to do…

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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2889 posts
Sugar bee

My parents also gave us a wedding gift of cash I didn’t feel comfortable taking and they didn’t take back so I used it to pay one of their bills. I don’t know if they ever realized but it became a non issue. they think they gave us the gift and the $ they owed on their car decreased. Is it possible you could do soething similar and put it into their mortgage or some other payment they owe?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@slicey19:  I’ve done this to my dad! He had NO money at one point, couldn’t even pay his bills & was this close from losing his house & gave me $100 for christmas one year. I kept $20 & put the rest toward the only bill I had access to which was his phone.

I agree with finding a way to give it back, deposit into an account, buy her things she needs, pay a bill…something.

Post # 7
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3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@hiroshymatetrastar:  lol! That is one stubborn woman! Maybe you can pay her house payment or something (idk how much money she gave you)? Or do you think your Fiance can sit down & tell her how guilty he feels that he was never able to pay back his dad & that he can’t stand the thought of accepting money from his mom. I can’t imagine her saying “too bad” to that!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

If you’re anything like me, they’d see that money mysteriously end up on their night stand or their glove compartment. I’m good at giving back money LOL.

 

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@hiroshymatetrastar:  I would do one of two things, or maybe both.

1.  Keep the money for now.  Use whatever you feel comfortable using and then when the wedding is over, give the rest back.  Tell them you ended up not needing all of it.

2.  Start leaving small sums around their house.  Maybe stuff a $20 into the seat cushions of the couch, $10 into a coat pocket, or $5 into the washing machine.  You could also randomally bring over some groceries or buying little things for them that they need.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Seeing as how you and your fiancé really don’t want the money and your Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t either, perhaps you should just donate it to charity. 

 

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