Post # 1
At most weddings I’ve attended I’ve seen at least two toasts. The problem is, is that there really isn’t anyone that knows us really well as a couple besides our parents. We’re not really having a bridal party. I’m asking my best guy friend of 20+ years to be my ‘man’ of honor (just basically to carry the rings and possibly read a passage). We still talk regularly but only get to see other a few times a year. I guess what i’m wondering is, do the toasts have to exactly be about ‘us?’ Could I ask one or two others, besides my dad, to just toast us in general for our future or words of wisdom/advice about being married? I know my ‘man of honor’ is a total ham when the center of attention and he would definitely say something funny.
Post # 3
Traditionally, the Maid of Honor and Bestman both give a toast. Some end up saying a "speech" rather than a toast, which can end up being really terrible, esp if co-workers and boss’s are attending.
You don’t "HAVE" to have a toas if you don’t want to, i’m not sure anyone would miss it, or even keep it simple someone saying "heres to So and So"
Post # 4
The best man at my wedding didn’t know me well at all. We had only met once before the wedding weekend.
He gave a really touching toast- talking about how happy my husband has been since he’s met me and he also said how unfortunate it was that he lives to far away and hasn’t been able to get to know me.
So even though he doesn’t know us as a couple, he was able to say something lovely.
I was in a similar situation myself- I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for my best college friend. I had only met her husband a couple of times before their wedding. And I also talked about how happy my friend was with him and how I was for them and how much I was looking forward to getting to know him. My friend cried (happy tears) and I got compliments from her family on the toast.
So, I would say that if you have people that are close to you individually, they can still speak to your happiness and wish you well!