(Closed) Don’t know what to do (long)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2143 posts
Buzzing bee

I truly know how hard things are right now and I’m so sorry. We thought Mr. Joe was going to be laid off this past winter (middle of wedding planning) and turns out, where he worked closed but LUCKILY they offered him a position at another location. Just talk to your parents and see how they feel, since they are putting so much money into it. If they truely don’t mind, then go for it, but cut back on things (which you seem to be sensible about). I wish I were more helpful, but just hang in there. *hugs*

Post # 4
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh goodness, well, I can relate because I am a planner. I would be in your same shoes–twiggin’ out because things could possibly become even hard to manage. I think right now you need to wait and see what happens, as hard as that will be. I also think you aren’t being selfish, you want a wedding you have always wanted, but unfortunately right now it may not be possible. Ya know, a lot of people are cutting back for weddings right now with the economy. What if you did cut some corners and have a smaller thing and then next year, at your one year anniversary, have the big reception and invite everyone you had wanted. Just because a wedding is small doesn’t mean it’s anything less than a big blow out wedding. Instead of a DJ just do iPod or something. That all depends if you can get your deposits back from some people. It’s up to you, but I think self catering is possible as long as you have some help. Could some of your friends/family friends possibly help you out and keep the food stocked and stuff so you, your groom and the parents don’t have to do it on that day? Just some ideas. I’ll come back and see what you have to say and what happens.

Good luck! Either way, you will still have a wedding. Just because all the "wedding stuff" doesn’t happen on that very day, and happens later when finances are better, doesn’t mean it’s not a wedding. Remember that!  ::hugs::

Post # 5
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It’s not selfish to want a wedding. If he does lose his job, you can make it work if you want. The main thing to consider is how much you have left to pay on those deposits for your vendors, and if it would be cheaper to just cancel and lose that money (well, depending on your contracts) or go forward with the wedding.

Your family and friends will understand if you can’t get them gifts right now, and there’s no law saying your Fiance has to wear a suit. He could wear something he already owns. For the rings, perhaps you could borrow your parents for the ceremony, and buy them when you have the money?

 Good luck no matter what you decide!


Post # 6
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Oh Tessabella, I just wanted to weigh in with a hive hug.  I don’t know what the job market is in Ohio right now, or what your honey does for a living, but is it possible that he’ll get another position in relatively short order? Would you be happy with a scaled back or delayed event?

I totally understand the scary feeling, as one of the places I work just got shut down and all of our hours got cut!  And they say doctoring is recession proof! Hang in there.  Things will get better, and we’re here if you need us!

Post # 8
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

*HUGS* I’m sorry that you’re feeling so torn. And it’s by no means selfish to want a big white wedding. It may not be PRACTICAL, though. What you may have to do is have a small legal ceremony now, and have a big party a couple years down the road. Of course you could try to swing it now, but it may not be possible.

It’s good to hear that he did get his paycheque, though! Hopefully things will start to turn around for you both now. 

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