(Closed) Don't know what to do! (Pro-DOC or non-pro "DOC"?)

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Who should I hire?
    The Pro-DOC : (11 votes)
    55 %
    The friend "DOC" : (6 votes)
    30 %
    Neither... You don't need one : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Your dog is adorable. He should do it. He's been living rent-free anyway. : (2 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    1274 posts
    Bumble bee

    If your friend from hs wants to help out and all you are really concerned about is the setup stuff you mentioned above, then I would just sit down with her have an established timeline that you clear with her (and provide her copies of) and do that instead! 

    As you mentioned you could probably get away with giving her some cash or a gift instead for her help. 🙂 


    Post # 5
    1274 posts
    Bumble bee

    @jwdesiree:  Haha…it’s sort of a toss up. The other thing with payment being involved is that it is treated more seriously as a ‘job’. If you know what I mean. If there is a timeline and lists of what needs to get done, images of table setups, etc then it should be easy peasy for any non- pro to handle I feel. 

    I think that’s a valid worry – but at the same time, things can go wrong no matter what. Is budget an issue with the original DOC you found? If it’s not, then stick with the original DOC but if it is a concern maybe this friend is a solution to that. 


    Post # 6
    2946 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I suggest doing a contract and offering to pay her.  Not as much as the pro, but this way you have leverage on her doing a good job.  If she is intrested in doing this as a business eventually, you can also say she can use you as a referance.

    Like PP said, sit down, have a plan and get her vision of your plan. 

    Post # 7
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    I had a friend lined up to be my DOC, who ended up having to back out that week due to a family emergency (her Mom was in the hospital.) One of our guests, a friend of my Mom’s stepped in to help with a LOT of things day of (was already coming early to help with flowers the day before), but our card box wasn’t supervised during the ceremony, and money/gift cards were stolen from 3 cards.

    So my two cents:

    -pay her
    -have a back-up plan. If you go w/ a pro, most likely she has a network of people who she could contact for a last minute fill-in. If I could go back, I would have tried to get someone else to fill in, versus asking a guest to.

    Post # 9
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    you’re welcome. Yeah, someone on either the venue or catering staff felt that they needed it more than we did. Grrr! 

    Post # 11
    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Hire someone. (What, biased? Just because I make my living as a wedding planner? Gosh, of course not! Wink)

    Seriously, though. Here’s why you should pick the pro over the friend.

    1. There is a lot more going on behind the scenes than you might realize. I love bringing a new assistant on board. They’re always super excited to work a wedding, but at the end of the night they’re inevitably exhausted and can’t believe how much there was to do! This summer I wore a pedometer and clocked 7 miles of running around at one wedding! It’s definitely more than just flowers and a few chairs.

    2. Crazy ish can happen, and you want a pro on your side when it does. I once had a reception manager pull me aside and inform me that people were drinking too much, that it was costing him too much money, and he would be shutting the bar down after dinner. I spent most of the night convincing him to keep it open “just 30 more minutes” and trying desperately to hide the situation from the bride. It was a nightmare, and not the kind of thing you want a friend to have on her shoulders.

    3. You’ll have someone to blame if stuff goes wrong! Your champagne flutes never made it to the bar? Your marriage license got misplaced? Your grandma is mad about the seating arrangements? None of this will ruin any friendships if the person responsible is hired help. Plus, if you really REALLY have to, you can sue them. You don’t want to sue a friend.

    4. We’re not emotionally involved. We try to stay out of photos, because we know it’s not about us. It’s okay if we have to miss your first dance because there’s some sort of issue in the kitchen. We sincerely love weddings and want your day to be amazing, but we’re able to keep perspective in a way that your buddies may not be. It’s our job to get stuff done rather than get caught up in the magic.



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