(Closed) Don't know what to do Would I be dumb to give him another chance?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 121
91 posts
Worker bee

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I agree with someone else though. You should report him. It is not ok to do this, especially being pregnant. I’m so PROUD of you for leaving and not respoding to him! take care of yourself and that baby. If he did it one, he could do it again. If something that little could set him off who knows if he can handle the stress of a child. 

Post # 122
404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I didn’t even get through the first paragraph, and barely the first sentence. I haven’t read any responses because all I have to say is: LEAVE.

Post # 123
1189 posts
Bumble bee

I hope you come back with another update. Are you okay? !

Post # 124
1767 posts
Buzzing bee

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SoccerBee86:  She has left, and reported him too.

I hope she’s okay. =(

Post # 125
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Victoria Wedding Chapel

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Anonbee996:  I know this thread is pretty old, but I hope you’re doing well and that everything has worked out for the best!

Post # 126
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Anonbee996:  Sweetheart, I have been in your position. You cannot stay with this man. He commited a crime. People go to jail for that. Please get out it is so frightening. I can tell you from experience tha ti stayed and just wasted my time. He got better for a whil eand then I got a lit candle thrown at my head and he cheated on me over and over (the time he went to jail was for strangling me). He didnt respect you or th ebaby in your stomach. For your childs sake you need to leave.


I would also recomend getting rid of the child (obviously 100% your choice). You shoul dnot have any connection to this person. I am SO lucky I did because I couldnt imagine still having to deal with that man now. It would be so hard. Unless you can somehow keep the baby away from him.

I’m so sorry you are going through this. Feel free to message me if you need help. THis is a really damaging experience and you deserve better. PLEASE leave. I am in such a better place now with someone who loves me who will never hurt me and I still get scared because of the last guy.


Stay safe.

Post # 127
988 posts
Busy bee

I have been there. My ex was very sweet to me in public and basically put me on a pedestal but behind closed doors he was an ASS! He called me stupid, said I would never amount to anything, and that he was the best thing that could happen to me. I was young, naive, and had a low self esteem which he fed off. I ended up marrying him and pretty much as soon as we returned home from our honeymoon it got worse. He would yell more and more. Then one day I was doing dishes, he came in and started yelling about something trivial. Something in me snapped! I grabbed a large carving knife and turned to him as he raised his hand to back slap me. I told him in a dead calm voice “go ahead and hit me but I guarantee one of us isn’t walking out of here alive. And it wasn’t going to be me!” He slowly lowered his hand and told me to get the f out! I grabbed my purse and left. I went to my brother’s apartment and broke down to him. Then we went and told my parents. I made the mistake of not filing charges! I just wanted out so we filed divorce under irreconsolible differences. I wish I had filed abuse charges it is something that I regret to this day! Luckily, I did not have kids with him and I was able to walk away and never see him again!

For the past 19 years, I have been with a wonderful man who took the time to understand what I had been through and helped me heal. To this day, DH is my rock, my savior, my best friend, and a great father to our two boys.

I just wanted to let you know, you are not alone. We are here for you. And there can be a silver lining after the darkness. But please know that animals (he is no man – even animal is too good a term for him) like that DO NOT change! The abuse only gets worse and if you are not around to kick around, what do you think happens to your children. Please don’t go back. Good luck and don’t be suckered into pleas of “I’ll Change!” It won’t happen! Hopefully, you have a good judge. Keep us updated!


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