Post # 1
I am dealing with 2 issues I need your help with. First, I’m 56 and getting married for the 2nd time. That part is good, but I also have no idea what kind of dress to wear. I have been divorced for many years, and I had a small wedding the 1st time with no wedding dress. My question is, am I to old to wear a wedding gown?
I am also full figured, so I have no idea what style of dress to get. I have looked at many wedding gowns online that come in my size, but have no idea what they will look like on my body shape. I’m 5’2″ and wear a street size of 2X to 3X, so am short and fat…LOL
I have a dressy dress my Fiance bought me to wear at my insistance, but now he wants me to wear a wedding gown.
Please help me bees! I have no idea what to do!
Post # 3
your never to old to wear a wedding dress!! you have to try dresses on you never know how shape will look on you until you do! have fun 🙂
Post # 4
Don’t stress about it. You will be gorgeous weather you will wear a dressy or a wedding dress! Beautiful brides come in all sizes, shapes, and ages. What I did to get an idea about wedding gown dresses and shapes was stalking preowned web pages like “once wed” or recycle bride or preowned wedding dresses. There are so many pretty pictures of different brides and you can also look for dresses your size and see what other brides picked. Have fun exploring and also before making an appointment at a salon tell them about not being sure about wearing a wedding dress and if you get a feeling on the phone they might be pushy just pick a different place to shop. Best of luck!
Post # 5
I’d say go for it! Like a pp said, go try them on! Like you I had no idea what would look good on me until I did. In fact I had thought that I would be dead set against having a strapless dress, but in the end, that’s the dress I fell in love with! 🙂 So my advice, is be adventurous and try on things that you might not like on the rack or would not normal wear.
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Post # 7
Wear a GOWN!!! my aunt did this, it was her first wedding and she’s in her 60’s. Go for it. She got a very simple dress and than rocked the HOT PINK crinoline under it. Its your day find something that you like and look beautiful in.
Post # 8
Thanks for the encouragement bees. I am going to try on wedding gowns in China, because most of the Designers have their gowns made there, and the selection is so much better in plus size. After we purchase my dress and some items for our house in China, we are moving to Italy, and getting married there. I have looked at so many gowns online that I’m totally confused. I have 1 bridal shop in my city to shop at, so I think China is best. Plus, they are a lot cheaper there to. Next, on to my shoes!
Thanks for the links!
Post # 9
Who says you cant wear a wedding gown???? The only person you really need to worry about would be happy just to see you happy!
That said, I too am in my early 50.s and plus size. I wanted a really nice dress but am definately not a kid anymore. This whole process has been so much fun in my 50’s more so than as a younger woman. It’s so different, we know who we are, what we want and generally how to go about getting it.
Being plus size I found early on there were a lot of dresses that when tried on looked like a skinny dress made bigger and definately not for a woman with curves. In the beginning I tried just ordering from the internet, but that resulted in a lot of wasted postage. If you’re unsure about the best style for you go to some local department stores and try on EVERYTHING. That will help you decide on the style that’s best for you…..
I found 3 great websites for plus size evening wear…… I loved Lightinthebox. You must have at least 4-6 weeks for that site but they are making custom (couture) dresses very very inexpensively and even have a sale right now. Not only can you pick your style, you can pick from several different fabrics and many many colors. You can take an off the rack size or send them your exact measurements. The dress that comes will be slightly larger, but that is so you can go to a local tailor and have it adjusted specfiically for your body. My dress cost under 100.00 and the dressmaker that altered it charged 75.00. So it is possible to purchase a customer made gown for 175.00. Things purchased from this site are made to order even if you go with a stock size so cant be returned.
Simplybe ships from England so again need to have 3 weeks to order (dont worry about returns they go to Florida) if you click on their Marisota line you will find a small group of very nicely designed plus size wedding gowns, but their evening wear is lovely too.
One stop plus puts together many different manufacturers so you can see what is out there in minutes rather than spending days trying to find individual websites.
So have fun with this wedding, keep the traditions you love, get rid of the ones you’re not thrilled about……..and if you want to wear a wedding dress GO FOR IT!
Post # 10
Firstly congratulations, i think all brides deserve to have their dream dress, and im sure you will look beautiful. if you want to look sophisticated and feel comfortable you could consider a less formal style like these?
Post # 11
I have been wanting to post this same question!!! I’ll be 50 when we marry next spring, secondtime around and about a size 18 right now. I don’t want a long “gown” but am going to go try on all kinds from strapless to couture , just to get an idea of the top portion… whether to go with strapless etc.
But I don’t want to spend a fortune either … so have been scoping out lightinthebox etc. I think the trying on part will be a blast for me and the Maid/Matron of Honor and at least then I’ll know what style will look best on my figure.
I am definitely wanting something tea length though.
Post # 12
I have looked at LightInTheBox, Simplybe, and One Stop Plus. I am looking at gowns from James Bridal in China. They are the factory, so they have a ton of dresses to pick from. I will be able to try them on, and see what I like there to. I honestly want a long formal gown, because I didn’t wear a wedding dress at all for my first wedding.
If you are interested, there a lots of Chinese online sites, including dhgate.com. Their prices are really low, and they will send fabric samples, etc. On dhgate, it shows you the rating of each seller.
Thanks for all of the advice and encouragement. You guys have helped me a lot. Good luck to all of you too.
Post # 13
I’m 54 years old and a first time bride, and I’m plus-sized too, so I can definitely relate to your post. Originally I was going to wear just a suit, but after Fiance wanted a “real” wedding instead of a Destination Wedding I went all out and bought a strapless Pronovias gown. Wear what you want – I am LOL!
Post # 14
No! You are never too old to wear a wedding gown. You do not have to wear white or biege there are so many options now. I am 48 and I have never like white or beige so I went with a pearl pink dress. They have hundreds of colors to choose from so go and try on several styles and determine which style you like then find a store that can make it for you in the color you want.
Post # 15
Congrats!! No, don’t be silly! You’re not too old to wear a dress! Nobody is. 🙂
Shop around. Check out davids bridal’s magazine for plus sized women to get a feel of what’s out there. I loved what was in magazine and tried a few dresses, Wear whatever you want! Originally I was going to wear a fancy black and white prom dress but SO convinced me to wear all white.
It’s your big day no matter what! Who cares if you’ve been married before. Things just don’t always work out. But the bride’s big day should work out for the better always since it’s a special day and a lot of planning has gone into it.
Post # 16
Wear whatever makes you feel prettiest. Don’t allow people to impose their likes/dislikes on you. Once I got too many opinions it drove me crazy.
I would go to David’s first to try on different styles and shapes. You don’t have to buy your dress there but its fairly unintimidating and will make future experiences easier. And you may find the dress or at least narrow down what you’re looking for. Bring one person with you.
If you’re already apprehensive don’t invovle too many ppl. It will make a bad situation worse.