(Closed) Don't know what to expect ?

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Well, for starters, your ex-husband’s new wife is your daughter’s stepmother. While she doesn’t have the same right as you, it would make things a lot easier and your daughter’s life a lot happier if you two can learn to get along. If your ex is unable to help pay for your daughter’s dancing classes, and his mother is willing to pitch in to do something nice for her granddaughter, I don’t see the problem with that. Seems to me like she is trying to do a nice thing for her grandchild, I’d let her. Of course that doesn’t mean she has ‘authority’ over your daughter, she isn’t her parent – but she sounds like a nice and caring grandparent. I’m kind of failing to see what the issue is here. You seem to be really afraid that someone is going to try to take control of your daughter away from you, but you have the majority of custody over her, and you are her parent, so that isn’t going to happen. But having more people involved in your daughter’s life who want to be there for her and care about ehr can be a good thing if you let it be.

Post # 5
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@catracha:  Sorry at one point you said your husband’s mom and in another his wife’s mom, so I was confused. But it’s still her step-grandma. My step-grandmother and I have a super close relationship – she’s a really great person who never oversteps her bounds, and it would be a shame if I hadn’t been able to do all the nice things she helped with when I was a child because my mom didn’t want her to. I would take her up on her offer, if she wants to come to her classes or recitals or whatever or watch her that would be great too. But if she does start trying to get controlling or choose the school you can just tell her that you’ve changed your mind and won’t be taking her up on her offer because as her mother you want to make the decisions about that sort of thing.

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