(Closed) Don't Know Why This is Borthering Me But…

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
12635 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry to hear that.  Enjoy the people who really want to be there to support you, and hopefully at some point your FMIL and FSIL will recognize that they’ve slighted you by not attending.

Post # 4
Member
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well course I can understand. I would be bummed too. 

Post # 6
Member
1661 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d be upset too, I mean, they are your future in-laws.  Enjoy the people who are there and have a good time!

Post # 7
Member
1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@armychica06:  I had close family members miss my shower to. The best revenge is to enjoy yourself, post plently of pictures so they can see how happy you are, and know that it’s their loss, not yours.

Post # 8
Member
4693 posts
Honey bee

Ouch. I’d be hurt and angry too, if I were you!

Post # 9
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Welcome to reality…. It is interesting to see the occasional double standard when it comes to in laws… I’m sorry you’re in this situation.

Post # 10
Member
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I hear you. I posted a similar thing recently. My FSIL is a BM and won’t be attending my shower (has known about it for a while) for what I see is not a good reason. But oh well, I’m over it now – it will be fun with the guests who are there! It’s her loss ultimately.

Post # 11
Member
1082 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m sorry- some people can be really self involved.

Hope you have a lovely time without them!

Post # 12
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@armychica06:  It sucks.  But I think it’s safe to say that they have a history of letting you down?  You just have to adjust your expectations.  Understandably, this is a big event for you, but since when have they made you a priority in their lives?  Why would this be any different?

I get it, trust me, I do.  And I get that letting this crap go is easier said than done.  But the more you expect, the more you will be disappointed.

Surround yourself, and more importanly, be GRATEFUL for your friends and family members that do matter and that share their love with you.

Don’t sweat it.  Good luck!

Post # 14
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1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It does suck, but I hope you have a great day none the less

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