- 5 years ago
I know, easier said than done!
For some background, my SO and I have been together about 2 and a half years (he’s 30, I’m 26 on Saturday!) and have been talking marriage since the 1 year mark. The only thing holding him back from proposing was that he wanted to be stably employed, which completely makes sense to me since our sensibilities were one thing that attracted us to each other.
This week, my SO started a new job, and its looking pretty good Fr him so far. It’s only part time and government funded for the first 14 weeks, but then they have the option to keep him on permanently. Since they’ve discussed moving him to the ever-growing payroll department which is currently one person, it seems like they plan on keeping him permanently (granted, it’s only one week so far).
My friends and co-workers have been bugging us for the longest time to get engaged (we would be the first in our group) and we keep explaining our logic.
SO and I go to Niagara Falls all the time, so he decided to take me there for my birthday for a few days, especially after he found a really great group deal voucher thing, although to make it special, he decided to upgrade our room from standard to suite. I mentioned this fact to a few people, now I have everyone trying to convince me this is THE weekend.
My logical mind knows its not, but it keeps having to fight with my hopeful mind, that’s getting back up from everyone around me. I know this is just a birthday trip, and I know that for me to be disappointed about not getting a proposal would be stupid. He’s only been employed one week, we agreed not to get engaged until AFTERhis cousin’s wedding or his sister’s baby, both in July.
Ladies, any advice on how to make sure logic is triumphant? I know that he’s gone to a lot of trouble to make this a special birthday, NOT a proposal.