Post # 1
Sorry for the rant but does anyone else have this problem and if so, how do you deal with it?
Alright so having 7 bridesmaids & groomsmen depended on one of my friends responses. She said yes, so we are having 7 on each side & 2 ushers. The Fiance had his list & couldn’t decide between 2 guys for that last spot, not like it would have been a big deal to have both but he said he was going to decide. Well while he’s making phone calls to ask the guys, since he’s a major procrastinator!, he has a completely different guy on the list instead of these 2 guys. The only problem is the last time we saw this guy was when my Fiance got back from Iraq like 2 years ago. They never talk besides the occassional facebook comment every 4 months or so saying hey we should hang out, but the guy is just such a flake. I mean I get they are friends but I just cannot stand the way this guy is and how he treats people, he is always in a new relationship every other day. When I’m around him I’m nice and he probably would never know I can’t stand him but having to deal with him being a part of our wedding is just annoying me. I want my Fiance to be happy too because it’s his day as well but I don’t know I just needed to get that out.
Post # 3
I totally understand where you are coming from. I would be just as annoyed. Luckily, Fiance knew better than to ask his one friend to stand up, who I despise, and who almost caused us to split at least twice. If he had asked him to stand up, I’m pretty sure I would have been boycotting my own wedding.
Post # 4
@dfontaine07: Can you discuss with your Fiance the nature of this potential groomsman and that you’re concerned he will flake on FI/the wedding in general as he has done so in the past?
I had two people on my groom’s side that weren’t my favorite people in the world. It was very difficult to look past, but at least, thankfully, I knew they would be dependable for him.
I hope you can be honest about your concerns to your Fiance and perhaps shed some light on the situation gently. If he is confident in this friend showing up, just leave it at that and cross your fingers. Good luck!
Post # 5
Thanks bees, I’m going to try to talk to him about it. I’m just not sure when, I teach during the day and he is a police officer at night so currently our schedules are not in sync and he’s Mr. Cranky when I see him in passing usually. haha. But I really do appreciate the help, I can only hope that someone would not be a flake for one of their good friends weddings.
Side note: The whole new relationship everyday part hopefully wont be true any longer since he proposed last night to his newest girlfriend of a week. Maybe this will change him. fingers crossed. 🙂