Post # 1
We picked out his band yesterday. It is white gold and has a brushed texture in the middle. It is a reasonable size, but for some reason, it is really really shiney and when he tried it on, it looked totally girly on him. I said that, politely, of course, but I could tell he really liked it, so I backpedaled and said it was nice.
I mean, he is the one who is going to wear it, but I don’t think he realizes how odd it looks! Poor guy.
Post # 3
To each their own 🙂 My boy and I have ridiculously different tastes in rings. I’m just happy he takes into account my preferences, I’ll have to be wise enough to do the same with him.
Good for you for realizing he’s the one that’s going to be rocking it!
Post # 4
I can’t imagine any plain band that would look “girly”. I imagine all plain bands as unisex. Gosh, 30 years ago ALL mens bands were just plain, high-polish rings. My dad’s is. I’m sure it looks just fine– it is his ring after all. What is important is that he love it.
Post # 5
haha I think you need to just let it go. I have already made peace with the fact that I probably won’t like my guy’s band. For a preppy accountant, he is all about bling. I think diamonds in men’s rings look feminine, but I am SURE he will want the bling. I think…. whatever! it is his band. 🙂
Post # 6
Oh I hear you! The band that Fiance finally settled on is fine with me now, but the first few that he tried on were really odd looking. But like others, I agree that it’s HIS band, and he’s the one that has to like it, not me. I mean, he DID get me the ring that I wanted…
Post # 7
My Future Father-In-Law travels around and sells jewelry, antiques, and does the whole flea marketing thing. We were at his table at the market once, and Fiance was looking at his jewelry and there was one of those rings that spin – i don’t know if those have a specific name – but also, the design on the outside looked like a bunch of z’s. Z is his name. (just the letter Z, doesn’t stand for anything, but that’s a story for another time!) After he put on the spinny ring with his “name” all over he said that it would be cool for his wedding band. Under normal circumstances, I wouldn’t care what he picked, but that ring – I was just thinking “OMG, you’ve got to be kidding me….” hahahaha Thankfully, he decided against that after scaring the crap out of me for like 30 seconds hehehe
Post # 8
Okay, I was going to post on this exact same thing so I’m glad you started this thread!
After looking (together) for weeks, he comes home yesterday with a ring! He just flat out bought it when he found it. I was happy he found something he liked, because he hasn’t really had much luck with it but ummm….. I don’t like it!
And yeah, it’s for the same reasons as you. It has a strange texture and I think it’s too feminine, but what do I do? He has to wear it, and it’s the only one he’s really liked. I guess, it’s his ring, it’s his finger – not my problem! I guess I was just picturing something else.
Post # 9
To be fair, we do have to look at them.
But I am glad he likes it. And doubly glad it doesn’t have any stones in it.
Post # 10
Yeah my fiance and I also have two completely different tastes. I actually picked out my band because I am the one who has to wear it the rest of my life, not him! He did a great job picking out the diamond though! Sometimes they just need a little guidance lol. As far as his ring goes… he was looking at a band with tons of diamonds… I was like uh and where do you think I am going to come up with all that money for your ring?!? HAHA I thought I was the one who wore diamonds 🙂
Post # 11
Too true Jocelyn, we do have to look at it for the rest of… forever. Any chance at a compromise? or is he signed, sealed, delivered?
Post # 12
Hey, maybe it will grow on you. 🙂
Post # 13
It’s done. And I think he already thinks I am a little controlling about decisions. Seems better to start the marriage backing this little decision of his than nitpicking about something that he will be wearing.
I can make all the bigger decisios later.
Post # 14
DH and I chose our rings together, and to be honest, I wasn’t a huge fan of his. It’s pretty blingy. But the truth is it’s on HIS finger for the rest of our lives, not mine, so it’s his decision. It’s growing on me, due to the emotional meaning!