(Closed) Don’t like future sister-in-law

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

@TG20:

Too bad you didn’t already ask the other Future Sister-In-Law while the other was out of the picture! lol!  Not sure what to tell you, but I definitely DO empathize.  I have only 1:3 that I like. 🙁

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Your wedding isn’t for a while yet, so I would hold off asking anyone for now. I would wait; just because they might break up again and then you would have your chance to ask the other one. Also, things may change in the next few months. She may change. You might want to have a talk with her to find out why she feels this way. You could take her out to lunch and ask her why she has these feeling toward you.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

When I was dating my ex Boyfriend or Best Friend, we had been together for over a year and I wasn’t included as a Bridesmaid or Best Man and all the other SO’s of his brothers were. I’m sure it’s because the bride didn’t like me! We also didn’t really know each other.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Just curious, when you say you’d like to have your other SIL, is this another brother’s girlfriend, or your FI’s actual sister?  I think there is a difference, if she’s his sister.  (I think you could ask her.) But if she’s the girlfriend of his brother, I agree with you.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

This girl will never actually be your SIL.  She is not your FI’s sister, but HIS sister in law.  I think you have no obligation to ask her to be in your wedding.  Even if the other girl you are asking is another SIL to your Fiance and not a sister she is still technically just a friend to you and someone you feel close to, you are not reqired to treat his brothers’ significant others exactly the same.

Post # 10
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1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow I totally understand. My fiance has 7 brothers and sisters and 6 of them are married, most have ~3-5 kids. Obviously, I’m not going to like everyone. I did ask my fiance’s sister to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man cause I felt closest to her. I didn’t ask his other sisters because they are married (my Bridesmaid or Best Man is single). I think that’s fair.

I don’t really believe in the whole, you ask so-and-so, so you have to ask so-and-so thing. So for me, I think you should just ask who you want to ask (people will complain no matter rwhat you do).

From experience, it’s SUPER frustrating having to deal with people’s drama WHILE planning a wedding. Especially with female in laws (there’s always some competition with some of them). So, just do your best to not let her get to you and just move on. Be loving, caring, accepting, but remember you don’t have to neccessarily bring people into your inner circle and make them your best friends just because you feel you have to.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I can’t stand my Future Sister-In-Law either. She’s horrible, and hates me because Father-In-Law like me much better than they like her. Of course, I’m not trying to marry her youngest son so he can take care of my 2 other children and suck his bank account dry all while living with her parents.

I don’t have kids. I have my own job. I have my own place to live… She doesn’t like me for that reason. She also hates the fact that I have a college degree, and she never finished high school…

We can’t pick our in laws can we? But boy it would be nice…

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

um her wedding is in 3 months she does not have plenty of time!! and when she posted this it was 4 months away do u know how long it takes for bridemaid dresses to come in sometimes?? u have no time… make up ur mind and hopefully if u dont include her, his family will get over it. just say she is rude and talks about u and u dont want her in it. end of story and who knows they might be broken up again then ull really be outta luck. its ur day do what u want.

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