Post # 16
I honestly think that is a BEAUTIFUL ring. If you like round brilliant have you thought about instead of buying a whole new ring buying a 1carrot diamond by itself and having a jeweller set it to his Grandmothers ring with the kind of setting you would like? He/she would also give you ideas on what you could do with the old diamond. It would be the size you want and and completely unique to anything else. Plus once you have the ring rerhodium plated it will shine amazingly and not have that dull appearance. Just a thought?
Post # 17
First, I happen to adore that ring just as it is. It’s way more interesting and special than the typical rings you see these days.
Second, my husband also inherited his grandmother’s beautiful gold e-ring to use as my engagement ring. It’s a beautful gold setting with intricate scrollwork and a white gold cheviot design and three stones (though the ones on the sides are super tiny so you don’t really see them at first glance). The problem was that I already had a solitaire that I inherited from my great-grandmother that I wanted to use for m engagement ring. So we went to a jeweler and asked for advice. He was able to put together a design that basically cut his grandmother’s setting down the middle, stuck the stone from my greatgrandmother’s ring into the center, used the center from his grandmother’s as a side and bought another side stone. So I wound up with a 5 stone ring with my grandmother’s stone in the center, but I was able to keep almost all the detail from the original setting from his grandmother’s ring. I’m thrilled with the result both visually and sentimentally. I love wearing an heirloom ring. It makes me feel more connected to my husband’s family and I know that his mom loves that I kept the setting.
So, if you don’t like the setting at all, are there other female relatives who might appreciate it? If you think you could like the ring if it was altered in some way, take it to a jewler and see what they say. There may be a design that preserves the beautiful setting but makes it a little more your style (and they can buff up the band while they’re at it, if it’s wearing thin). Hopefully you can find something that works. I think it would be really sad to completely lose that beautiful setting but I can understand wanting it to match your style. I also like the PPs suggestion of getting a wrap for your band.
Post # 18
Just a thought. Set the 8 side diamonds into a wedding band that would match a ring you choose. I think that would be a great way to turn this heirloom into your own!!
Post # 19
itsmle: Why does this ring need to be bigger then your last? If even .96 it just seems like bigger for the sake of being bigger is what matters, since I really doubt there is a huge difference between a .95 and a .96.
Post # 20
I love vintage rings!!! This one is quite beautiful. Since you don’t want to dismantle it and your future in laws and SO are open to anything, why not just wear it as a RHR? You and your SO can discuss the engagement ring YOU want since you are the one that will be wearing it.
Post # 21
I’m not a very sentimental person when it comes to things so I don’t personally care of rings that have been passed down. I want my own ring. I would think the ring would be more special if it were kept in a box and just passed down in the family and not necessarily worn- and certainly not taken apart and reset. I mean…if it were a 4ct diamond, maybe then….
I would just tell him that you really like something totally different and you think the ring has more meaning if it’s kept in it’s original condition. Then get what you want.
Post # 22
Thank you all for the suggestions. I’m pretty much the only girl coming into the family. He has a brother who isn’t quite likely to get married ever (BUT, hey, there’s someone for everyone!). And the neices and nephews are grown and gone. As for me passing it down…well, WE aren’t planning on having any children, and it won’t mean anything to my 2 children since it’s not their family ring. I like the idea of re-setting a center stone, or the 3 diamonds, or the ring guards. <br />There’s more possibilites than I thought!
I like the idea of the heirloom, and the history that it brings, but I don’t love it as MY ring.
It’s really hard to word this without sounding like a completely ungrateful bitch. I’m not. I promise.
Post # 23
So I was looking through another thread and seen an amazingly beautiful ring and it instantly reminded me of your one. I hope she doesn’t mind me showing you. Sorry it is so big i don’t know how to downsize
Post # 24
It’s really pretty. My husband was offered the family ring, and he later told me it was really dingy and not sparkly at all, so he declined and we went with moissy. Lo and behold a year later his brother got engaged with the family ring and when I saw it in person I was amazed at how gorgeous it was. It just needed a good cleaning and poilshing. It’s smaller (probably like .3-.4 of a carat) but absolutely gorgeous. Maybe give yourself time to see if you like it? Otherwise, I think it’s demure enough that you could make a stacked look out of it. It could be the wedding band, then maybe you could get a square shaped engagement ring that would sit beautifully with it? Mismatched can look really cool.
Post # 25
I am heartbroken to hear it is not the ring of your dreams (I LOVE it and would snatch it in a second)! But that said, you should be 100% happy with your ering.
If for some reason you decide to wear the ring, just remember it will be that much easier to upgrade to a different one sooner than you think. I used one of my mom’s rings as an e-ring and because my husband didn’t purchase it, there were NO hard feelings when I wanted a new one after a few years. AND you can splurge on a wedding band!
Here is a pic of my vintage ring (that I “upgraded” to) with some “bling” so you can have an idea of how to dress it up!
Post # 26
- Wedding: June 2014 - Church in partners hometown
My fiance proposed with his mums ring, but here in Norway e-rings are not at all the same as they in in US/Australia and he knew it probably wouln’t be my taste but wanted me to have it anyway because it meant something to him. So after he proposed we went together and chose the e-ring I will wear with my wedding band and I will wear his mums ring that he proposed with on my ring finger left hand as this is the hand they wear the wedding rings on in Norway and I thought that was a nice way to have my cake and eat it too and fiance was very happy with it all too. Maybe you can work out a compromise or a way to make it work for you, just speak with your fiance and see what he thinks!
Post # 27
I would have the small diamonds added to a thick gold band of your choice/ style.
Or I would totally stack it with some bands i really like.
Post # 28
I have my grandmother’s 1940’s wedding set. I wear them on my right hand because, though the set is beautiful, it wasn’t what I had in mind for myself. So wearing them together on your right hand would be a nice way to acknoweldge the gift without having to rip it apart and redo everything.
Post # 29
I think you’ve been very careful to make it obvious that you aren’t being an ungrateful bitch and dismissing the value of the ring. If you don’t want to reset it with a larger stone or use the stones from the older ring in a wedding band for your own ring that you pick out then you can always wear it on your right hand on special occassions. If you didn’t want to do that, see if his mother has someone else she would like to hand the ring down to since you won’t be having children together and your children won’t be interested in another family’s ring. If your Fiance is ok with it maybe you can have the ring remade into a pendant and give it back to his mother as a surprise Mother of the Groom gift?
Post # 30
You really have to talk to your fiance about how he and his family would feel about it. Perhaps the diamonds could be reset in a new setting with some additional stones, but perhaps the ring is too sentimental and you’d be hurting his family’s feelings. You just have to ask about it.
Another thing you could do is take this as an engagement ring for the sentimental value and get a really blingy over the top wedding ring that is totally you. The wedding ring is supposed to be nearest and dearest to the heart, so why not make it stick out the most. It would be unique, and totally gorgeous.