(Closed) Don’t like my E-ring and wedding band together

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What should I do?
    Suck it up, try to get over it, and wear them together. Those are the rings you picked! : (43 votes)
    68 %
    Wear the engagement ring on your right hand. : (6 votes)
    10 %
    Wear the band for everyday and the e-ring for special occasions. : (7 votes)
    11 %
    Ask for a new setting for Christmas. If you are unhappy, it will always bother you. : (7 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    1752 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Beleive me, you are not the only girl here who doesn’t love their ring situation, so don’t feel bad for asking.

    Personally I think they are beautiful together – there is a LOT of sparkle & I think that the main stone in the e-ring balances with the wider band (I’m guessing e-ring is 3mm wide & wedding band is 4?)

    I would say, wear them for a little while longer.  If in 6 months or so, you decide that you really can’t live with it.. start talking to your husband about putting it in a new setting for your 1st anniversary & putting another stone in this setting to wear on your right hand.

    That way he knows that the ring is still important to you & you are doing it for an anniversary – not impuslively.

    I know that a year is SOOOO long away.  But honestly, you should know that in the mean time, other people think your set is beautiful!

    Post # 4
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I picked “suck it up” but I don’t mean that in such a harsh way, lol. Really, what I mean is that I have NO idea what you’re talking about when you say they don’t match! I stared at the photo for a few minutes trying to see how they’re different, and I couldn’t tell! Obviously, if it’s something you notice, then it’s going to continue to bother you. But I think you should give it some more time and see if you get used to it, because as an outside observer, they really seem to go together so well and look beautiful together.

    Post # 5
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I honestly can’t tell how they are different.

    If it bothers you though, since you don’t like wearing it on your right hand or any of the other options, start saving to get your e-ring reset.  You should be happy with your set!

    Post # 7
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think it looks like it matches and you’re over-analyzing it.

    When I got my e-ring it wasn’t something I would have picked, now as I tried to find a band that matches I’m realizing that I’m going to have to get it reset (the prongs are too low to sit flush with a band – I didn’t want to have to do it but there’s no way around it).

    Here’s the thing though – I’ve actually grown to love my ring and am a bit sad to have to change it. I say give it time.

    Post # 8
    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    i think they look fabulous together.

    Post # 9
    572 posts
    Busy bee

    I cant tell the difference either but I am not the one wearing them.

    I think you should wear your band alone and wear your engagement ring on your right hand.

    Post # 10
    722 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t like matching sets, so I think it looks great. To me, rings that complement each other are more chic than a set.

    Post # 11
    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012


    I feel you, however  your Darling Husband chose the ring that you wanted he wanted to please you and maybe you don’t realize it but when you make comments such as the ones like “I don’t like they way the look” might hurt them.  Think about he saved and saved so he could please the one he loved his future bride YOU.

    My fiance purchase a ring for me all by himself  I was truly surprised when he proposed since we were together since we were 19 years old and he proposed until I was 26 years old in 2008. He purchased the ring in all its entirety. He went with a round diamond 1.2 carat ring .  At the time he was only making $8.25 cents later after he proposed he told me that he had been saving since 2005 as he did he cried because he worked hard to buy me something wonderful and beautiful that symbolized  HIS LOVE FOR ME.   Fast forward 2010 he now gets paid $20.50 and hour and everytime we go get my ring cleaned he asks  “do you want to upgrade ” and I reply  NO because this ring is beautiful (plus my diamond looks like it had babies) and because it you worked hard and it symbolizes your love, sweat, and long hours you worked .

    With this said, if you Husband brings it up than go for it, however from the picture I can tell you that your ring and band together look wonderful.

    My suggestion: My fiance purchase 3 rings for me the round soltaire than before he purchase he went to see the band and made sure it enterlocked pefectly with one another .  Since the set only had one side he purchase the other band and removed these diamonds it had (made earrings out of them lost them 🙁   )  and now I have 3 however when they are soldered together they will look like my grandmothers rings big and blingly.

    Tip:  For all brides 

    Ensure that he you go out with your Future Husband to be ring shopping that you make sure that the band will fit or match your engagement ring. Remembers sales people are there to Sell you items so everything you said they agree on. 

    However if you were like me A truly surprised fiancee where the guy went out and purchased the ring himself he probably will be asking you questions overtly to see what you like and not make it obvious that he is going to propose.  Love your ring that he chooses he choice it out because he knows you best

    Post # 12
    216 posts
    Helper bee

    Fiance got me a halo e-ring with a flat setting… therefore making it absolutely impossible to buy any premade band. I don’t like the idea of a curved custom band, so just got an eternity band to wear on my other hand. I think your rings go nicely, but if it bothers you–there is nothing wrong with wearing your rings on different hands. It is becoming more common…and I actually like it better because I am a simple girl and don’t like much bling.

    Post # 13
    825 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I picked suck it up but only because you and I have basically the exact same rings!!! I have the ritani as well but I have micropave diamonds all around the ring (even on the inside) because I didn’t like the channel setting. My rings look identical to yours except my band is the same width as my e-ring band. I’m sorry yours is a bit bigger, but it doesn’t look bad at all! Although I might just be partial because you and I are ring twins:)

    Post # 14
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    I can’t really tell that their different and if we can’t then some random person WON’T.

    Post # 15
    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    I can’t tell a difference.

    Post # 16
    235 posts
    Helper bee

    I have another suggestion.  What if you got another identical eternity band so that your engagement band is inbetween?  Then it would look more “matchy” like you want.  My son did this for my DIL because they couldn’t find a band that looked right with her E ring.  You could hint to your hubby that you would like to do this for your 1st anniversary!

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