Post # 31
- Wedding: A restaurant on the beach
It would be cost prohibitive (if not impossible) to switch out the head of that ring to fit a 0.5ct diamond. Since you don’t hate the ring you should keep it for now. You guys can save money and in a year or two upgrade the ring to something you’ll love.
Post # 32
katiejane10: People can say you sound greedy all they want (and you totally do) BUT no one can say that they aren’t hoping for their dream ring when that box opens.
If the ring you got is SOOOOO close your dream ring, why not make it perfect? In that case, I don’t see it as greed, just a doable fact. So, let the haters hate girl!
See if they’ll exchange the diamond, not the ring? They might do that, they can use the diamond in a different ring, you like the setting, right?
The place my Girlfriend is going to get my ring sells you the ring setting and THEN after you’ve picked the ring, you pick the centre diamond, size, cut, clarity, colour. So maybe he went through the same process? And in that case I can’t see why it’s a big deal to exchange the diamond…
Post # 33
I don’t understand. He proposed with the same ring, but it needed to be sized down. So you saw the size of the diamond, and still ordered a new one in the right size? Why didn’t you return it then and make him buy you a bigger diamond?
Post # 34
i would ask the store if they can put a larger stone into the setting. You’ll lose a lot of money reselling it Since diamond rings depreciate like cars.
Post # 35
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
Upgrade! Not now but down the line. When it comes time to pick out wedding bands visit different jewelers and casually mention upgrading. Some jewelers can offer you a better deal if you’re buying multiple items from them. Consider moissanite or adding a halo as a way to increase the size. Or pick out a helluva wedding band and rock your band solo! None of these are right now options but if you save up you can find a solution.
Post # 36
- Wedding: August 2015 - Red Barn Farm
katiejane10: If you’re both in agreement about letting go of the ring, I would attempt to sell it yourself. Facebook, Craigslit, Pawn shops, perhaps another jeweler? If you went to another jeweler you could maybe give them your ring, in exchange for purchasing a new ring with them?
I’ve had problems with my ring, but my jeweler is willing to have an extra version of my ring in their store because of all the issues wiith it.
By the way I don’t believe it’s selfish AT ALL to want the ring YOU want!!! You are going to have it for the rest of your life *hopefully* so it needs to be something that you’re proud of!
Post # 37
Could you take it to another jeweler and ask if they can put in a bigger stone, or trade it in and get some money back as a credit to spend on a new one?
Post # 38
Is anyone happy with the fact that someone asked you to spend the rest of their life with you? Or is the ring the only thing that matters anymore? I feel like marriage is lost, because people are more concerned with how big the ring is or how much it cost. Clearly your fiance picked it out because he liked it and thought you would as well, that should mean a whole lot to you. More and more people are stressing about the big day versus looking at the big picture. How about you worry about your life together. Not how big the ring is. I bet not one person is going to tell you how small the ring is…
Post # 39
If your fiance is on board, then maybe sell it and buy a moissanite ring or a whole set. This one looks a lot like your current ring, IMO. http://www.moissaniteco.com/round-moissanite-diamond-petite-cathedral-wedding-set-p-15847.html
Good luck, dear!
Post # 40
katiejane10: wow, you’ve had a whopping two posts on WB and now you’re three pages in and guess what you haven’t come back to comment on this thread! Weird. Hope it isn’t because people aren’t answering the actual question and just berrating you!
Give the girl a break. She clearly posted on the first page that she would be more than happy with a .4 or .5 diamond. She came here for support and I give it to her. It’s not my place to tell her anything different.
Post # 41
Thank you for those that have been helpful and have been able to emphasize with my situation.
I am completely in love with my fiancé, however unfortunately I do not love my ring.
I maybe shallow but I think you should wear your ring everyday for the rest of your life and to do that I want to adore it.
When I first got it I really did like it but because it was so big I couldn’t wear it. After I finally got it back and could actually wear it, I couldn’t stop looking at it and that’s when I thought I just don’t love this ring.
I find it so awful some of you have felt the need to post such negative comments. I already feel awful and I came here for advice from people who I thought might understand.
Post # 42
katiejane10: ignore it. There are way more amazing people on the boards than there are sour apples.
Post # 43
How about a stand in ring with a moissanite of the dimensions you desire?
Post # 44
katiejane10: It is beautiful! I’d say keep it now and then upgrade down the line? Is that a possibility? And I will say (not sure if this will help or not 🙂 but my ring is a little over a carat and I actually wear my wedding band and only put on my diamon when I am going somewhere etc. I find myself wearing just the band so much more 🙂
Post # 45
It is a very pretty setting! Curious, is it pave diamonds or an intricate, textured metal setting?
I think it could be nice to use this stone in a necklace, but I caution you to make sure you’re being sensitive to your partner so that he doesn’t feel bad about this.
I like your ring, but if you want to change it, hm… perhaps you could add a halo? That would help on the financial side, too, as you’d keep the stone!