(Closed) Don't like my ring… Can't exchange or return

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

katiejane10:  I say get the ring remade to have a halo or get a really nice enhancer 

Post # 47
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2065 posts
Buzzing bee

So, you know you can’t afford what you want unless you can trade this in and use it toward the new ring but you can’t so I suggest either wearing this until you save up enough for what you want or looking into a CZ ring or gemstone ring such as aquamarine or topaz or white sapphire until you can save for what you want. 

Post # 48
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130 posts
Blushing bee

It would be nice to have some concrete clarification from you: what can you realistically afford right now in terms of getting a new center stone? That would help people know how to offer you advice.

I definitely second the white sapphire comment for stones under 1ct…people complain because it’s not as hard as diamond but seriously, it’s only one step behind on the hardness scale. Fiance and I are trying to keep costs low right now so while I really wanted a sparkly band to exactly match my white gold and diamond e-ring, I felt like it would be wise to look for alternatives. I found a gorgeous sterling silver and white sapphire band and you can NOT tell the difference between the sapphires and diamonds (or the silver and white gold, for that matter).

If you were going up to 1ct it would probably be obvious that the stone wasn’t a diamond, but for smaller sizes of sapphire, the sparkle and durability is still there, and you’re still able to say it’s an actual precious stone.

Post # 49
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Bumble Beekeeper

You can let it grow on you. Your Fiance thoughtfully picked it. A ring shouldn’t make you feel sad or frustrated! You’re engaged!

You can get an enhancer to make it seem more blingy. 

Buying a different ring or center stone seems more complicated to me, but people have done it before. The other bees know more about alternative stones to consider. 

Post # 50
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

There are always those who look to make themselves feel better by making someone else feel bad. God forbid you’d like a .4ct stone you must be soooooo materialistic. Seriously, these people aren’t worth your time to respond. They are talking to themselves; you’re just the vehicle.

A larger stone is more $ and it’s not a linear progression; the larger the stone the more $ per ct. Consider saving for a while and getting a stone that you really love. Deferred gratification is a good thing.

Post # 51
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1258 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

OP- Your ring is beautiful and congrats on your engagement!  I do understand how you feel. When I first got engaged YEARS ago, my engagement was very petite and at first I was proud of it and loved it…after a couple months I started wanting a larger stone, eventually I did end up upgrading the whole ring and since we couldn’t afford to keep both, I traded in my original for the upgrade.  Years later….I still miss that ring and wish I hadn’t done it. 

I know not everyone feels this way, however, it is something to think about. 

Have you thought about maybe getting a ring enhancer? You wouldn’t have to do anything to your current ring..it would just fit right in it….just another option….here is an example of one:

 

 

Post # 52
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Bumble bee

futuremrsc10315:  you’re absolutely right, however, these ARE the ring boards, where people discuss their rings and how they feel about them, and other ring related topics.   I’m sure she’s over the moon to be engaged, and loves her Fiance beyond words,  but that’s not the topic at hand. She wants to love her ring also, and us looking for advice on how to proceed. 🙂

Post # 53
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Bee Keeper

I second white sapphire. You can get a lab one for next to nothing.

Post # 55
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366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016 - Church by the beach,

I think it’s beautiful keep the ring he chose you, a new one wont be as special. I would feel very ungrateful to ask for a new ring personally and the guilt would ruin the new one for me its also a horrible start to your engagement/marriage together. If its only size you can always get enhancer wedding bands.

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Haddonfield, NJ

futuremrscopeland:  She already made her decision – see post directly above yours. If her and her Fiance are comfortable with changing out the stone, then there should be no guilt. Every couple is different. 

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016 - Church by the beach,

SamGoesWest:  oh yes… In my opinion I would still would feel that way though because as women we can get a man to do anything for us, but that doesn’t me we should. She also said before she couldn’t afford a new ring so this original was probably what he can sensibly spend. 

Post # 58
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278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Haddonfield, NJ

futuremrscopeland:  “as women we can get a man to do anything for us” are you for real?

Not all women are the same, and not all men are the same. I’m sorry you feel you’re able to manipulate your “man” to do whatever you want, but don’t generalize. 

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016 - Church by the beach,

SamGoesWest: What!  I said I don’t manipulate, I rarely ask fi for anything actually. 

Post # 60
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278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Haddonfield, NJ

futuremrscopeland:  I’m calling out your offensive comment about how men are so easily manipulated by women. Note I said you are saying you are ABLE to manipulate, not that you do. 

It was generalizing sexist stereotypes, and it was offensive. 

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